"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When she asks about your ex and sex history

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What's the best answer to give when a girl you're interested in and getting to know asks you about your previous relationship and how many girls you've slept with? I guess she's trying to see whether she's a rebound, 'just another fvck', whether you can commit etc.

This broad asking isn't a slvt and seems the type that gets very attached.

If it helps, I've slept with 24 girls and ex broke up with me two months ago. Truths that she won't like lol.

Edit: I say she's not a slvt base on limited knowledge of her and her personality. She well could be or could have been...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Say I would not like to know about your past, and you about mine. If we ever get into a relationship we may talk about it. If you are good looking and obviously not a virgin, this makes you mysterious.

And never talk trash about ex girlfriends in front of her.
 

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Don’t ask, don’t tell. It’s none of her business, and any details of, any numerical value of lovers, are liable to be used against you in the evaluation of your worth. If you do say something, keep it vague.
 

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So why do girls ask how many you've been with and what do they want to hear?

I've been asked this question recently by a girl I've had a couple of dates with. We haven't had sex yet, but things are escalating. She seems to like me a lot and seems to want more than just a fling, so is she just seeking reassurance I'm not a player?
 

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Jariel said:
So why do girls ask how many you've been with and what do they want to hear?

I've been asked this question recently by a girl I've had a couple of dates with. We haven't had sex yet, but things are escalating. She seems to like me a lot and seems to want more than just a fling, so is she just seeking reassurance I'm not a player?
Generally, the best strategy is to be vague or laugh off the question (i.e. "more than a busload, less than a plane-full).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"Over 5000"

Do not take this question seriously
 

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Its a trap!

Doesn't matter if you say 10 or 100...
That being said, I wouldn't recommend saying more than 12, or less than 4...irregardless of what your number is. Tell her it shouldn't matter to her because it doesn't matter to you...and honestly, it shouldn't. Just remember, she probably wouldn't give you an honest answer to the same question...
 

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Say this verbatim, "Who and what I'm was doing when you weren't around is none of your business."

or a number that's so ridiculously high that she'll learn not to ask you some sh*t like that.

You can use the "Bill Clinton," excuse, "It depends on what your definition of "is," "is."

Tell her a number that's ridiculously low, but say it in a sarcastic tone.

Ask how many guys she's been with and say one of the following

a) Damn, you've got some catching up to do.

b) Damn, I've got some catching up to do.

Tell her the truth, and when she starts to trip, you should say, "Then why are you asking questions you don't want the answer to.
 

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roflzaur said:
Say I would not like to know about your past, and you about mine. If we ever get into a relationship we may talk about it. If you are good looking and obviously not a virgin, this makes you mysterious.

And never talk trash about ex girlfriends in front of her.
This. It just looks butthurt. Don't do it. I've learned from my mistakes
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Whenever a chick brings this up i simply say ''thats none of your bussiness'' change subject and move on! she'll get the drift and will probably never mention it again.

I noticed that mostly the really insecure ones ask this question! smh
 

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Say "That kind of conversation never turns out to be productive" and change the subject. This will demonstrate your strength and keep her regarding you as mysterious.
 

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Agree with above. Do not answer this question directly. Especially if you have yet to sleep with her. This is a sh!t test that you will fail.
 

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Tell her the truth: none.

ALWAYS tell a woman the full truth when she asks.

hahana jk
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Deep Dish said:
Don’t ask, don’t tell. It’s none of her business, and any details of, any numerical value of lovers, are liable to be used against you in the evaluation of your worth. If you do say something, keep it vague.
Especially if the man is a virgin or has a really low number count. Women aren't fond of inexperienced men. They find it "creepy". A good number of women will swear up and down that they hate womanizers yet it's usually these same guys they'll drop their panties for.
 
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