Girls are attracted to me and I know this, however, I'm just haven't been really getting anywhere with girls lately. I can open a set, get interest, maybe even have a good, fun conversation with her, but it ends there. Now part of this is because I don't escalate with woman and I admit that's something I have to work on. But also lol sometimes even if they're interested, they won't give me their number. To me this is like them saying "I'm interested in you, just not interested enough to give you my number". Basically, the guy I'm looking to become by the end of this school year, is the guy who all the girls get giddy over, the guy who all the girls know and want to screw. Right now, I know I'm an attractive guy and I'm pretty confident with approaching sets, but right now it's just taking me to long to get the girls attracted. I've also got a few personal insecurities I want to overcome which I know get in the way of me getting woman.
One of these insecurities I need to fix are the fact that I still care too much about outcome. I go into sets WANTING something from the girl, other than just going into sets with the mindset of being social and having fun. The fact that I go in there caring too much about the outcome, is keeping me from having fun. I'm so worried about the outcome, that it keeps me from having fun. When I go in there wanting a certain reaction or "outcome" from a girl, the reason I think it's not fun, is because if the girl isn't giving me major IOI's, I start to worry and start becoming insecure. This insecure state can a lot of times keep girls from being interested or attracted, because they can tell I'm not really being real and that I just want something from them. The way I plan to fix this, is going up to sets with the mindset of just having fun and being social. I shouldn't be caring whether they're attracted to me or not.
I get into this state mostly when I'm in a very social setting, where a lot of people are talking and I see another guy talking to a whole bunch of girls, when I'm talking to none. Yeah, I know it doesn't make sense, cause it's very hard to explain. It's almost like, I start feeling like I can't get girls or something when I see another guy dominating most of the sets. It's almost like "Look at me! I can talk to girls too, you know". I guess this also comes back to the fact that I care too much. Yeah lol I don't understand what I'm saying too much either, because it's a feeling that's very hard to explain. I guess the only way I could overcome this problem is to stop being jealous when I see another dude talking to a bunch of girls and getting good results.
So that's my basic plan for approaching when I go back to school on Monday. To just stop worrying so much, loosen up and just have fun with the girls, regardless of whether they give me the number or not. And overall, I'm just going to completely STOP worrying about OUTCOME, because worrying about outcome is screwing up my game. And overall, I'm just going to try to loosen up and have fun with everything. For instance in play practice, I'm going to stop worrying about whether I'm getting the moves right or not and I'm just going to have fun with it and everyone else I'm dancing with.
But to conclude this post, I do have one question, how do I become that guy who all the girls get giddy over and want to screw?
One of these insecurities I need to fix are the fact that I still care too much about outcome. I go into sets WANTING something from the girl, other than just going into sets with the mindset of being social and having fun. The fact that I go in there caring too much about the outcome, is keeping me from having fun. I'm so worried about the outcome, that it keeps me from having fun. When I go in there wanting a certain reaction or "outcome" from a girl, the reason I think it's not fun, is because if the girl isn't giving me major IOI's, I start to worry and start becoming insecure. This insecure state can a lot of times keep girls from being interested or attracted, because they can tell I'm not really being real and that I just want something from them. The way I plan to fix this, is going up to sets with the mindset of just having fun and being social. I shouldn't be caring whether they're attracted to me or not.
I get into this state mostly when I'm in a very social setting, where a lot of people are talking and I see another guy talking to a whole bunch of girls, when I'm talking to none. Yeah, I know it doesn't make sense, cause it's very hard to explain. It's almost like, I start feeling like I can't get girls or something when I see another guy dominating most of the sets. It's almost like "Look at me! I can talk to girls too, you know". I guess this also comes back to the fact that I care too much. Yeah lol I don't understand what I'm saying too much either, because it's a feeling that's very hard to explain. I guess the only way I could overcome this problem is to stop being jealous when I see another dude talking to a bunch of girls and getting good results.
So that's my basic plan for approaching when I go back to school on Monday. To just stop worrying so much, loosen up and just have fun with the girls, regardless of whether they give me the number or not. And overall, I'm just going to completely STOP worrying about OUTCOME, because worrying about outcome is screwing up my game. And overall, I'm just going to try to loosen up and have fun with everything. For instance in play practice, I'm going to stop worrying about whether I'm getting the moves right or not and I'm just going to have fun with it and everyone else I'm dancing with.
But to conclude this post, I do have one question, how do I become that guy who all the girls get giddy over and want to screw?