“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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PeasantPlayer

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Read each chapter twice? How do you guys better retain information? Right now I am highlighting everything and reading chapters twice, but I figure why do both.....if I am highlighting the "important" stuff I can go back and take notes and re read those sections? What do you guys think?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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If anything, you should read 'How to Read a Book'. The concepts in that book are amazing... I only got half way through the audiobook and I have SO many bookmarks, screenshots, etc. Also, this book applies to life. There are so many great motivating quotes, concepts, studies on how to influence people, etc. I can't believe it.

It shows you how to read the book, beyond what everyone believes on how to do it. It seems very elementary, but the book is so informative.

You will become so much better at reading, taking the knowledge, and truly understanding the Author from your point of view.
It is not as elementary as you think.
People suggest it is fundamental to all non-fictional reading. So if you are reading some dating books, it could work in your favor really well.

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Which pickup book are you referring to?
It applies to any book, in the world.
 

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Any book, i'm reading the art of seduction, and i read every chapter twice.....and highlighting the "important" stuff I think I will just read the chapters once and highlight whats important
 

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PeasantPlayer said:
Any book, i'm reading the art of seduction, and i read every chapter twice.....and highlighting the "important" stuff I think I will just read the chapters once and highlight whats important
I think you should read the chapter and highlight important things, just by skim reading.

Then go back and read the chapter.

It's like the movie 'About Time'.

But then came part two of Dad's plan. He told me to live every day again almost exactly the same. The first time with all the tensions and worries that stop us noticing how sweet the world can be (highlighting), but the second time noticing (reading). Okay, Dad. Let's give it a go.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Read it regularly to understand the point. If something is foggy look over It

I might say your OD'ing a little bit as far as reading chapters twice + highlighting.

Its like back in school and you try to remember something specific for the test. You keep reading it over and over and studying, and then the test comes and its the first thing you forget.

Your underestimating your brain. It retains a lot more than we think.

My opinion however, this is a tough question to ask because everyone's brain is different.
 

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If you're going back repeatedly that means you're not actually understading the fundamentals. This is usually because the author is bad at explaining the subject and you're getting bored, resulting in mind wandering and after a minute of reading thinking, "Wtf did I just read".

This is why I don't read drawn out educational books. They tend to be one of the least efficient means of learning things. What I could learn from reading a 100 page "book" I could probably learn better and faster in <10 pages of cliff notes, aka actual information not padded with unnecessary rambling.

I would recommend returning your book (or burning it) and then googling discussions and interpretations of the book, where people will be more likely to actually address the fundamental points.
 

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Everyone has a different reading comprehension style.

For me, it is driving and listening to an audiobook. It is reading parts twice -- once, really fast looking at important and bullet-styled facts, and anything else that stands out -- and twice, reading it and recognizing those 'important' facts.

And Yewki -- I understand that, but some times the 'rambling' is also necessary. It's like an audiobook will include mostly everything, but might skip the padding. However, if you go back and look at the padding, it will be relevant to a story that you MIGHT be able to relate to.

In the brain, new neural pathways are formed by those new experiences or knowledge that can connect to an experience that you already have or know.

For pickup, I'd rather listen to the story instead of ONLY the fundamental points. I can relate to the stories. I can say "Wow, that's me!", and that helps with forming new connections in the brain. The best way to read is when engaged into the material.

Bullet-Style fundamental points are necessary too -- especially depending on the book.

A lot of it depends on the book. In the book I mentioned (How to Read a Book), the Author admits that not every book needs to be read fully...

That is why I skim, look at the sections, and read next. I can skip that I don't need to know, and make sure I understand what I don't know and read what I can relate to.

So there are a lot of factors. It depends on the style and genre of the book and Author, and lastly, your style of reading that helps you remember things. For me, it is learning a story that I can relate to. Then I know how to correct it, and I know how that 'fundamental point' is applied to someone else's story.

It depends. :)

We are all different, we learn entirely different. I learn by doing and relating to someone else. I'm not so much a reading learner, so I have my own ways to engage into the material, and absorb it.
 
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