"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When is social media attention flirting?

MoreThanSmooth

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I've noticed there are some girls on Facebook that always like my photos, or like every other photo and often comment on my links and stuff too.

Most of that's just friendly I think, but there's one chick I used to work with who likes almost every profile picture I put up. If I mention anything about dating (like a joke on my front page or something) or if I put a new picture on she usually seems to PM me afterwards to ask how I'm doing.

Put one up today looking fairly buff and by lunch she's PMing after a few weeks of quiet asking how I'm getting on.

Do you guys ever use FB for flirting and how do you differentiate a standard pattern of "liking" from a girl trying to flirt with you?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do you guys ever use FB for flirting and how do you differentiate a standard pattern of "liking" from a girl trying to flirt with you?
You can't really. Some are just likes with no intent behind them, some have intent and I think some even do it to bait thirsty guys to gratify their attention seeking. I just message them and get to the point. No need to spend too much time d!cking around about it. She's probably crept your page already and made her mind up.
 

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I've noticed there are some girls on Facebook that always like my photos, or like every other photo and often comment on my links and stuff too.

Most of that's just friendly I think, but there's one chick I used to work with who likes almost every profile picture I put up. If I mention anything about dating (like a joke on my front page or something) or if I put a new picture on she usually seems to PM me afterwards to ask how I'm doing.

Put one up today looking fairly buff and by lunch she's PMing after a few weeks of quiet asking how I'm getting on.

Do you guys ever use FB for flirting and how do you differentiate a standard pattern of "liking" from a girl trying to flirt with you?
I don't use facebook

I've never been interested in social media.

Recently I opened a twitter account to find the news sources that are more to my liking than the leftist biased mass media.

Apart from that. I don't like friend face and I don't trust people who are constantly on it
 

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I believe most bait guys into becoming their orbiters either on social media through likes and comments on their profile or just to get a fast ego boost (or show the message to their friends).

To see through it I would just send her a message asking her about a good place to eat (add something you like) then from her answer gauge her interest.

An interested girl would clearly offer to show you the place and suggest you the best food there, a baiter will tell that she doesnt know or just throw some names.

I wouldnt invite straight, that would be as biting the bait.
 

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An interested girl would clearly offer to show you the place and suggest you the best food there, a baiter will tell that she doesnt know or just throw some names.

I wouldnt invite straight, that would be as biting the bait.
Actually this chick is always telling me "We should/could do something soon" and has said she wants to go out and eat somewhere with me in the past, but when we do hang out she doesn't seem interested. We got some fries one time together and wandered the streets, she's said we should do that again.

The stupid thing is, we went clubbing with some of her friends and she didn't bother dancing with me when I tried to engage a few times. Ended up on the sofa. Plus she always starts dropping other guys in when we talk.

The usual mixed messages s*** that I find frustrating - and usually when women do this I assume they're trying to get me to orbit. But whenever I pull back for a month she starts messaging me again. Weird.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Actually this chick is always telling me "We should/could do something soon" and has said she wants to go out and eat somewhere with me in the past, but when we do hang out she doesn't seem interested. We got some fries one time together and wandered the streets, she's said we should do that again.

The stupid thing is, we went clubbing with some of her friends and she didn't bother dancing with me when I tried to engage a few times. Ended up on the sofa. Plus she always starts dropping other guys in when we talk.

The usual mixed messages s*** that I find frustrating - and usually when women do this I assume they're trying to get me to orbit. But whenever I pull back for a month she starts messaging me again. Weird.
Well then, sounds like you have your answer in here.
If there’s been a history between you two and no take off in a physical sense, she just likes attention.
 

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Actually this chick is always telling me "We should/could do something soon" and has said she wants to go out and eat somewhere with me in the past, but when we do hang out she doesn't seem interested. We got some fries one time together and wandered the streets, she's said we should do that again.

The stupid thing is, we went clubbing with some of her friends and she didn't bother dancing with me when I tried to engage a few times. Ended up on the sofa. Plus she always starts dropping other guys in when we talk.

The usual mixed messages s*** that I find frustrating - and usually when women do this I assume they're trying to get me to orbit. But whenever I pull back for a month she starts messaging me again. Weird.
If your gut is pissed off, its more than enough to next it.

Your gut gets uncomfortable when she plays games, hot and cold, withdrawn attention than bait you again when you leave.

An interested girl would never do anything like that, she wouldnt run the risk to lose a guy she value by pissing him off or confusing him.

If it was me I wouldnt even bother to reply to her or would keep it short and closed.
 
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