"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Would anyone be able to explain why I feel more confident when I'm alone with a girl but, if I'm out alone in public my confidence feels fake and like I'm being scrutinized?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You feel like you need to be validated. I know a few guys that always need to have a girl with them, and I think its because they are trying to act like they are "The Man". They dont have the confidence to walk into a place solo and be the alpha male, so they need a sidekick "girl", to go with them so the other people in such establishment thinks more of them.
 
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Probably because if you are alone with a girl in a room by yourselves, she has to pay attention to you; You're the only thing that can get her attention.

But out at a club or whatever, there are other, better guys for her to occupy her time. Hell, even other girls to talk to might be more interesting than you.

The confidence you feel when you're alone with a girl is artificial. Its just a by-product of the fact that she HAS to talk to you. If there was another guy in the room that was more interesting than you, you wouldn't hold her attention, and that confidence would be gone.

You gotta lot to learn man, read the bible.
 
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hmm i get what youre saying. but there are times with a social gathering where i still feel i hold the confidence than others. i dont know for sure why its not constant.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maybe you're just an inconsistent kinda guy?

^Read that a few times^

You gotta develop your inner game. Your self-esteem. Your fvcking PRIDE as a MAN.

Read the bible.
 
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