when high standards happen...

[Amazing]

so here is what goes on when high standards happen:

you find yourself at a chick's place, she is naked, you are with your d!ck almost inside..and you just cant.....go...through....


i tried 4 or 5 times to just start ****ing her and i couldnt bring myself up - NO CHEMISTRY AT ALL, like looks wise she was not turning me on... usually i always mess around with girls and make jokes, but here i couldnt even bring myself to make out passionately. bah

cool girl, slim, like 6/10 but i am picky as ****


would rather jerk off.. sad but true.

 

[Amazing]

talked about with some cool guys..

if a girl is not putting in effort

when there is no intimacy

doesnt matter who she is you wont like it

so.. go for the gold.

 

[Ease]

Doesnt sound right, i would have went through with it.

Are you sure you aren't gay?

 

[bukowski_merit]

Doesnt sound right, i would have went through with it.

Are you sure you aren't gay?

Actually it makes total sense. I think it's something that happens as you age and get experience as well.

When i was young, i could have stuck my d!ck in any woman and been able to perform with a smile on my face. That's just a case of raging hormones and lack of experience.

But now, i've been with close to 40 women. I've had relationships where i fvcked the same woman 400-2000 times.

It really takes GENUINE attraction for me to get into $ex anymore. I have to be extremely attracted to her apperance OR there has to be some chemistry.

If there isn't and i try to have sex:
- 25% chance i won't even be able to perform (get up).
- 25% chance i will but won't be able to keep it up once i feel the passionless lips.
- 40% chance i won't be able to ***
- 10% chance i will be able to perform fine (guess this is when im really horny/drunk)

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This also trickles down to my current FBs in a very interesting way.

I now have the rule with both of my FBs that we cannot hang out if we're not going to have at least 2 hours together.

When they just come over for $ex, it is FAR less passionate (for me) than when we vibe, drink, talk, laugh, tickle, play, etc before we have $ex. When they just come over and are like "f me" - it feels robotic.

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About a month ago, one of my FBs came over but we both only had 30 minutes. Down went a glass of wine each, and then BAM we hit the bed.

Funny thing was, she was REALLY into it, kissing me in a very passionate way, scratching my back and grabbing the back of my head, and she was REALLY REALLY into it somewhere else.

To make a long story short - i WASN'T into it at all. It felt planned. I gave her it for about 20 minutes (she had 3-4 O's) and then rolled off her and said "im done" because i wasn't anywhere close to busting. She was disappointed that i didn't too (you'd be surprised what an insult that is to women).
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So now, i have that rule in place. I actually prefer 4-5 hours. That way we can let it happen spontaneously, and if it happens within the first hour - we can go a round 2 a little while after that.

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But yes, i think it's very normal for men who are experienced, and who know how to attract women to find it very hard to just settle for any old cow. This becomes more true as you age.

I believe that this is why so many marriages become sexless. Lack of passion/attraction = lack of desire.

It's a good thing that you can't perform with just any old woman. It's natures way of FORCING you to have standards.

Next time you see a woman of her low caliber - you probably won't even consider talking to her. And that's not a bad thing.

 

[Amazing]

Wow, B, that was an awesome response.

There are three reasons why the night ended in her bed.

We were at the bars, and my game was doing ok but there was no lock ins, so I texted the "back up" just to be safe.. I was pretty drunk and horny so I figured why not.

My friend, who has close to no standards, was egging me on

Her friend, who is cute, was there last time and we were thinking about doing a threesome. She was there this time as well, so I said i'll go if I can get a threesome... yet the cute girl left shortly after (i shoulda made her stay) and now I was SOL.


I know I might be in the minority, but I need a connection, or at least LIKE the girl and enjoy being with her on both physical and emotional levels. (unless im just trying to hate **** her) I will do a lot of awesome things in bed for you if there is a connection..but I will not do anything if the vibe isn't there.


here is some stuff from other people, may be it will help someone as well:

It doesn't matter how hot they are, this happens to me every now and then too. I've found that it happens when the girls completely lack confidence, and there is just no intimacy. Like when they're so self conscious and you just aren't feeling a connection, and you're just not into it.

Usually chicks with tiny boobs are like this. I've never had this problem with a chick with at least B cups. I thought about the fact that I may just be attracted to chicks with bigger boobs, but that's not it, because it happened once to me with a chick with big fake tits. They were beautiful tits and so fun to play with, yet inside she was still that insecure girl with the tiny boobs.



I had this happen a while ago with a one night stand.

She had a ****ing smoking body - could tell she took good care of herself and was tight all around.

But when it came down to it all she was doing during foreplay was laying there looking pretty.




bros, listen to an old man:
if you can't go through, if something feels wrong...
THEN CHANCES ARE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG. GET THE HELL OUT OF DODGE.
it's called instinct, folks. plain and simple. OP, you may have dodged genital warts or alimony payments or something. good for ya..

 

[Proselytiser]

Same old for me, if she is not attractive enough I have a lot of trouble getting an erection, maintaining an erection, and getting an orgasm. And then I feel dirty the next day lol.