"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When her girl-friend asked you if you like her friend?

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I got asked this question last night on a double date. Her friend asked me if I like her friend and if I want to be her boyfriend :/

How do you guys usually respond to a question like this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko

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You could always use the old "She should ask me herself is she wants to know".
Not sure if that gets you out of trouble though :)
 

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"Yes."


I think that evading the question is stupid because it's defensive in itself. You should speak the truth and be bold about it.
 

zekko

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HariPoter13 said:
"Yes."


I think that evading the question is stupid because it's defensive in itself. You should speak the truth and be bold about it.
It's a valid question though because it is taught here that you should not be the first to directly come out and tell the girl that you like her. Some believe you should never tell her (I agree with the former, but not the latter).
 

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"She is a real cool person, and I'm enjoying her company and conversation. Right now I am not looking for any particular relationship but if it happens that we get to know each other better I wouldn't fight the possibility of us being together exclusively."
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Who Dares Win

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^^^ Do as pretty boy suggested.

It happened the same to me once and I failed the situation by replying logically and directly.

I suggest you however to dont p1ss off her friend despite her being a cvnt because feminine sheep mentality keep in high consideration friends opinion.
If her friend keeps hammering in her that you are a loser no matter how much game you have, your success will be at risk.

It could be a good idea instead to reframe and let her friend talk, so you dont get exposed and she will have the impression you give a fvck about her opinion.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
"She is a real cool person, and I'm enjoying her company and conversation. Right now I am not looking for any particular relationship but if it happens that we get to know each other better I wouldn't fight the possibility of us being together exclusively."
Nailed it...

You have to figure that she is going to get back to your date with what you said. So if you sound too indifferent it may sound bad/worse later after translation. I would say something like "She's an awesome girl, it's been a while since I have been able to vibe with someone like that."
 

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"Are you her little Watson?" "She's cool, I enjoy her...that's all for you for now...ask me again in a week for more clues."
 
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