"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When her girl-friend asked you if you like her friend?

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I got asked this question last night on a double date. Her friend asked me if I like her friend and if I want to be her boyfriend :/

How do you guys usually respond to a question like this?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You could always use the old "She should ask me herself is she wants to know".
Not sure if that gets you out of trouble though :)
 

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"Yes."


I think that evading the question is stupid because it's defensive in itself. You should speak the truth and be bold about it.
 

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HariPoter13 said:
"Yes."


I think that evading the question is stupid because it's defensive in itself. You should speak the truth and be bold about it.
It's a valid question though because it is taught here that you should not be the first to directly come out and tell the girl that you like her. Some believe you should never tell her (I agree with the former, but not the latter).
 

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"She is a real cool person, and I'm enjoying her company and conversation. Right now I am not looking for any particular relationship but if it happens that we get to know each other better I wouldn't fight the possibility of us being together exclusively."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Who Dares Win

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^^^ Do as pretty boy suggested.

It happened the same to me once and I failed the situation by replying logically and directly.

I suggest you however to dont p1ss off her friend despite her being a cvnt because feminine sheep mentality keep in high consideration friends opinion.
If her friend keeps hammering in her that you are a loser no matter how much game you have, your success will be at risk.

It could be a good idea instead to reframe and let her friend talk, so you dont get exposed and she will have the impression you give a fvck about her opinion.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
"She is a real cool person, and I'm enjoying her company and conversation. Right now I am not looking for any particular relationship but if it happens that we get to know each other better I wouldn't fight the possibility of us being together exclusively."
Nailed it...

You have to figure that she is going to get back to your date with what you said. So if you sound too indifferent it may sound bad/worse later after translation. I would say something like "She's an awesome girl, it's been a while since I have been able to vibe with someone like that."
 

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"Are you her little Watson?" "She's cool, I enjoy her...that's all for you for now...ask me again in a week for more clues."
 
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