"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When girls see you change.

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So, I've been working on my inner game and it's turning out pretty well. The thing is, most of the women I've practiced on have been COMPLETE STRANGERS. When I'm around girls I see a lot, I can't bring myself to be any different than I've been. For example; Kinoing girls that you've never touched, or suddenly calling their sh!t. I just feels so awkward. How can I change this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop caring and just do it. You should have started it doing right from the beginning you were working on your inner-game, because the transition is pretty gradual there.

I had a friend learn the basics of kino, and he slowly introduced it, and they all loved it.
 

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SandHawk said:
Stop caring and just do it. You should have started it doing right from the beginning you were working on your inner-game, because the transition is pretty gradual there.

I had a friend learn the basics of kino, and he slowly introduced it, and they all loved it.
Agreed. Just do it like Nike. Not every woman is going to be receptive to your advances. But as long as you don't give a f**k, as in being outcome dependent, you'll be cool. And don't turn to mush or act comservative/ friendly toward hese women, because that lands you in the friendzone.
 

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If you are seen as the beta guy in your social group then a drastic alpha makeover WILL start a ruckus. Have you ever seen what happens when a beta actually grows some balls and stands up for himself? He will get b!tched out at and usually left feeling embarrassed and walk away with his tail between his legs, because the woman KNOW he is harmless and have a tight grip on his balls. The key here is to remain your ground. If you suddenly show you have balls these girls WILL test you, and the testing will never stop. Even guys will test you as well to make sure you aren't a punk. There's going to be times where they are going to try and leave you feeling stupid, but don't take it seriously, stand your ground and eventually it will come natural and they will look at you with a new outlook. Just remember that once you introduce this change to people you will always have to be on top of it. Like I said, the testing never stops. These girls are going to want to know if you are the real thing. Dominance and confidence is attractive to them, you have to be the REAL thing or they will straight up expose you as a fake.
 

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I think this whole testing has a different background than just the change from beta to alpha. It has to do with being the alpha.

As can be seen with animals that live a very alpha/beta hierarchy(for instance, packs of wolves), the alpha male is constantly being challenged by the others. This testing will be more severe with a new alpha as he still has to earn his respect. But in the end, even if he's an accepted alpha, he will be challenged and tested.

I see this happen constantly. At my dancing group I'm an accepted alpha as I've always behaved like this. Most people accept my place in the group(ie., the center of attention), but a few are kicking up dirt over me. One of the guys calls me Mr. Perfect and is trying to keep me away from a girl he is really into by talking crap about me and making arrangements with people who hang around with me to exclude. All they do is tell me about it and laugh at his expense.

All you have to do is keep your frame here. Act like that alpha, either by gradually introducing it or by just changing in 1 go. But once you did make the change, don't go back, or you'll loose all respect. As happens with the wolf that was once the pack leader and lost. Noone respects him, and he either falls to omega male(outcast) or gets killed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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