When Girls Approach You

[mtlwlu]

At the club the other night, I was approached by 3 different girls at various times, now I know how girls feel. I was somewhat taken back and instead of trying to get their attention, I was the one recieving it. I found that I still went to my old ways and carried the convo at least with the normal "script" I have. But it was a unique experience, I left with 2 numbers the one girl just wasnt that interesting.

Anyone else have that?

 

[f283000]

I have gotten smiles and looks from girls all my life, but you know what it doesn't matter not 1 bit unless you end up banging them. Looks and phone #s don't matter because girls give out #s now a days like they give out their facebook.

What sosuave did for me was help me be confident and aggressive with females that were choosing me. I went from cold approaching to just reading women that were giving me buying signals and not wasting any time.

So if you have women approaching you don't think it over twice and just act fast. If you wait too long you will lose out. Most of the girls I have dated recently have been girls that either gave me looks, smiles, approached me, and me just taking action, getting their # and asking them out soon after.

 

[bish0p]

Instead of getting numbers, just take the hottest one home that night.

Every girl who has approached me and flirted with me in the club has gone home with me that same night after I stopped pushing for numbers and instead went home with them.

 

[PapiChulo]

Such situations make me feel weird, because it takes the fun out of the challenge or hunt, whatever you call it, especially if she is cute it feels like clubbing a baby seal. And this usually happens at the moments when my mind is focused on other broads.

I welcome the interest signals, but being approached has demasculating effects on me.

 

[Fuglydude]

I was a male stripper for about three and a half years from 24 to 28-ish. I've performed at hundreds of revues, stagettes, etc. After the busier shows you feel a lot like a mini-rockstar when you got girls basically throwing themselves at you. If you stick around to party then you get approached A LOT, and by decent looking girls a lot of the time. I was usually high and just wanted to chill and enjoy the music.

I've been approached quite a few times on the street... a few of them were actually pretty funny. One time I had a girl on the bus be like "excuse me, you have a really nice butt"... I had no idea how to reply to that at the time. It was like before 0630 and I was half asleep. Another time these 2 young girls were like "what's cookin good lookin", "hey baby"... before one of their younger brothers piped up: "hey you're not supposed to do that! He's a fully grown man, and you're 16 years old!"... kid musta been around 12!

F283000 is correct though... Getting approached means nothing unless your cack is in at least one of their holes. I'm a good looking guy, and I'm in good shape, but I think my game is quite weak. Why? Because quite frankly I've haven't really ever had to develop it. In addition I'd rather spend my time developing myself rather than just developing good game. I've only ever gone for girls that were interested in me... it makes it a lot easier to get a$$ this way... and remember if you're an attractive guy, you'll have a lot of girls interested. I'd NEVER cold approach unless there were definite signs of interest from her. I'd never be that serious about approaching at clubs either... I'd usually just be dancing (or practicing drills/timing as I call it) by myself, and you'd have girls "close in on you".

Obviously I've had a lot more overt IOIs rather than direct approaches. Overt IOIs are basically female's way to saying they want you to approach. Most girls will give you IOIs rather than approach. Remember always assume attraction (make sure you look the part) and if there are overt IOIs and you're also interested then go in for the kill... don't hesitate.

 

[f283000]

I've only ever gone for girls that were interested in me... it makes it a lot easier to get a$$ this way... and remember if you're an attractive guy, you'll have a lot of girls interested. I'd NEVER cold approach unless there were definite signs of interest from her. I'd never be that serious about approaching at clubs either... I'd usually just be dancing (or practicing drills/timing as I call it) by myself, and you'd have girls "close in on you".

Obviously I've had a lot more overt IOIs rather than direct approaches. Overt IOIs are basically female's way to saying they want you to approach. Most girls will give you IOIs rather than approach. Remember always assume attraction (make sure you look the part) and if there are overt IOIs and you're also interested then go in for the kill... don't hesitate.

That's the advantage of decent looking guys but at the end of the day it doesn't matter if they don't close the deals AND if they have no confidence to talk to women that give them IOI's.

I can't discourage cold approaches because that's the way I built up my confidence and my ability to talk with women in order to talk to talk those girls that were giving me IOI's.

If it wasn't for cold approaches I would have gone on for the rest of my life getting IOI's and not acting on them for being afraid to talk to women.

Doing cold approaches/sargin is the best way to lose the fear of talking to women and lose the fear of rejection. If you're a good looking guy if you don't fear rejection you can go for any woman giving you IOI's and cut out much of the work when it comes to dating which is cold approaching.

Average looking guys have to work hard to get their share while if you're good looking and girls approach you then you can just wait for the IOI's and take action.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I've noticed when I'm out and about that sometimes I get lots of looks, and I'm sure it's because I have a strong "presence" because my looks are nothing special, believe me. However I must add that I look and carry myself easily 15 years younger than my actual age.

But my point is that it really does make you realize how women must feel. It gets to be quite annoying. It's like they would all like to engage you but you just want them to leave you alone. At those times when I'm not in the mood (which is often), I look away like a typical AFC. I just want nothing to do with them. I'm quite selective. And I suppose it's the same way with girls.

I'm sure I would have enjoyed it more when I was younger, but at that time I was so AFC that every time I met or looked at a girl I would feed off her energy and turn into a woman. Literally I would be reactive and start acting shy and feminine in their presence. Good times...

I'll be writing a new thread about this phenomenon soon.

 

[Let's Get Real]

I remember one of the first times at a bar...a woman that I had never talked to bought me a drink. AWKWARD! I realized it wasn't the best way to approach a woman. Better to make fun of her or flat out say "what are you doing after place? Let's hang out."

 

[AAAgent]

I'm also agreeing with f28300.

Another girl came up and randomly talked to me yesterday. I don't handle approaches well at all with girls, atleast the ones that approach me. I love chasing and cold approaching so when i get approached i'm kind like um....i know what your getting at girl. I usually answer their question and go about my business. Usually they go away but sometimes if their persistent enough to break through my barrier i'll open up to them. I was sitting at my desk with headphones on and this girl from another department just taps me on the shoulder. I'm definitely the best looking Asian guy in the office since there aren't many and i'm the second tallest (Asian). The other guy is like 6'1. I wish i had a pretty boy look or manly look but sadly i'm stuck with a baby face. That coupled with the youthfulness of the Asian look, i always pass for very young (sometimes highschool, mostly around the 18-20 bracket). Especially if my hair is short. Even with my baby face full cheeks, i'd give myself a 7.5-8 on a good day.

I think this is pretty much the same way a lot of girls are. You catch them off guard and surprise them. They're kind of like wtf what do you want, but you if don't let any of that phase you and break through that barrier they will eventually open up. There has been multiple times when girls have won me over by persistence but those relationships didn't last long.