When girls approach YOU

[LostAndConfused]

Alright so I was out yesterday, and three girls approached me. two were fairly average HB5s, but one was an HB7. And of course, I wanted the HB7. But one of the HB5s started the conversation, she walked up and said hi. Now I'm not that good at cold approaches, but I've gotten much better at applying DJ tactics n stuff to get the girl interested. But when girls approach me that goes out of the window.

Usually I'm by myself when it happens (when I'm with a group of guys I just get look IOI's) and usually its with a group of girls, and usually only one or two of them are attractive. I get really intimidated because it seems like its alot versus me so I become submissive really fast, usually only displaying confidence while asking their names, where the girls are from, and the school they're at. Then when I try to single out the hot one, I absolutely fail. Because I'm slightly nervous I forget the names that I had just asked. They eventually stop holding up their part of the conversation and I just leave.

So my question to you is, when a group of girls approach you, whats a good way to hold up a conversation with all of them, or just cut to the chase and single out the hot one(s)?

 

[Mr. Wolf]

What do you do when you approach a set of 3 girls? Do you A) approach your target and start talking. or B) disarm the other two girls?


Same thing. Except they have approached you and opened you. Disarm the friends first.


Talk about same thing as you would when approaching. For example they might start conversation one way, asking you questions, etc, beause they have approached you. Reframe that, as if you've approached them.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Yeah thats the problem that I mentioned. Whenever I approach a group of girls I always have a wing with me, or I'm winging for a friend. When I'm by myself, I will usually approach girls that are alone or sometimes a group of two girls. So if and when things start to go sour (and they often do, when some of the girls realize that you aren't interested in them they CB you), my wing can always back me up. I guess I really don't know how to disarm the less attractive ones.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Become their friend. Build rapport with them. This shows the other girl, your target, that you are a cool guy. Here you are, talking to her friend, she wants you now even more. In a way, you are gaming the HB, not her friend.. Click link in my signature and start learning, start from basics just for the fun of it.

 

[allez]

you can find a way to turn the conversation in your favor, play it cool stick to your guns and your in. don't automatically single out the one you want, like wolf says show her your a cool guy by being cool w/her friends

 

[LostAndConfused]

I guess my other problem is taking it too far. When I get "cool" with the other friends, I do it so much that they think I'm attracted to the other friends and not the HB.