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When girlfriend plans out future

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Hello all,

I have been with my girlfriend for ~ 7 months. I am 27 and she is 30. I love her and enjoy my time with her; however, I am very independent person (grew up as only child) and I also need my own space.

Everything has been great so far, but this last Saturday night we were talking and she brought up the topic of marriage. I told her that I needed to move very slowly towards that point if it ever does happen. Then she told me some things that made me realize she was planning our lives together and idealized us being married in the next year or so.

I woke up the next morning almost with a sick feeling in my stomach. I felt freaked out. The feeling that she is planning out "our" future, and that she could steal away my freedom. I realize at her age this is her M.O. However, I am not ready for marriage. I am just starting a new career, and I am just enjoying dating her. I think marriage is a possibility with her, but when I am good and ready. So here I am on Monday, and I still have the sick feeling in my stomach.

Just venting folks, how do you mature guys deal with woman and commitment?
 

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preach on

somewhat of the same situtation but not anywhere near as serious. been with my GF for almost 3 years now. when we first met she hated the idea ofmarriage. that was right up my alley. she went from hatingto not having an opinion on it.. now she's not coming out and talking about but get I think her friends are pressuring her or asking what's wrong or something.

we went to a wedding about a month ago (actually the girl that brought me here got married) and she said to me out of the blue " I don't know what you have against marriage, do we not make a good couple". I damn near choked on my drink.


it's coming. that was like the trailer to a very bad movie that I do not want to see. she has not brough it back up since but, I can see now it's an issuse weare going to have to address

it's not HER persay.. if i were going to get married, it would be her..its marriag in generall. I hate the idea. I hate the goverment into my personal life. sheknows that. but that's life.
 
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