"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When girl friend is ignoring, what should we do?

AlphaGuy

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There are many articles and e-books on the internet that I have read so many times but still can't get one information. Some says one thing and the other says another thing.

There is a girl who's always coming up with excuses of not talking, always ignoring me and yet never telling me what's the cause. Once I even asked her that she can leave, which she said she's just busy nowadays.

The thing is, few people say that when a girl flakes on you/ignores you. Just breakup with them to give them a sense of loss and to tell them that you cannot tolerate their ignorance. As you can read here:

It's simple: If you allow your ex to dictate the rules here, you're shooting yourself in the foot. You're also prolonging the break.

Let her, and your girlfriend will go out and see what other options are available to her. This is where you could potentially lose her to someone else, and if that happens you shouldn't even be surprised.

By taking a break you're actually telling your ex "Go, enjoy, have fun, and I'll still be here waiting around for you when you're ready to come back". It's a sad, pathetic, puppy-dog type mentality that always loses her respect.
Source: http://getherback.com/girlfriend-wants-a-break.php
According to their article, we should breakup immediately or else we're all lost.

While some other articles, sites, eBook's, people etc tells that if a girl ignores you, just ignore her back and always act disinterested so she may react to it.

Now what's the right step to handle such a situation?

P.S --- In my case, the girl is really having a tough time but still I do believe that she is ignoring, after all a simple text message takes less then 2 minutes.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hard to tell without real specifics, but...

A real gf would want to see you when things are hard for her, because she should see you as a welcome break from all her problems.

If you're just another thing for her to try to fit into her day, then I'd say just leave her to it and get on with living your life elsewhere. I wouldn't necessarily call up and end it, just make other plans with your life that she can either join in, or not.
 

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If you carefully read the thread. I'm asking about two different things that which of them is the best way to handle the situation. Ignoring her back or just breaking it up with her.

Read the original post carefully dude.
 

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It's when you don't know much about the girl, in my situation I've known her for more then 2 years. We've had great time together as well.
 

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If she has something going on in her personal life I would just say pull back and let her handle it. If she wants your comfort she will contact you.

if she pulls back for an extended period (1-2 weeks) that means its probably over, but you can reach out to her since you've been dating a while.

Worst thing you can do is smother her and be clingy though.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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AlphaGuy said:
If you carefully read the thread. I'm asking about two different things that which of them is the best way to handle the situation. Ignoring her back or just breaking it up with her.

Read the original post carefully dude.
I did read the original post carefully dude. Aside from picking up at least eight obvious grammatical mistakes, I was trying to give you a response that would get you to think about the situation in a different light so you could make the right decision for yourself.

If you want a nice, simple, reactive decision between breaking up or ignoring her, just flip a coin.
 
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