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When does teasing become disrespect?

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in a group of friends which i've never been too close with, but i dont have too many others (and yes i know i need to find some new friends), ive noticed that the girls are always teasing me, and usually i let them have it back. i always viewed it as a bit of fun, better than the normal dribbling boring conversations they usually have

now lately i've been trying to improve myself, i'm losing weight, focusing more on my interests, and much less on the group - in fact, i've been selectively ignoring some of the b!tches and getting more friendly with others (gotta love the mind games), and i've noticed that the teasing is getting much worse

i dont let it bother me (at least i dont let them see it) and sometimes i just outright ignore their stupid comments - sometimes i think they're just trying to get a rise out of me, so i dont dignify their "jokes"

now my question is, when does playful teasing become outright disrespect? what i want out of this group of friends is some learning experience - there are a lot more women in the group than i normally have access to (girls to guys 7/3), so i'm trying to see the effects of my journey as i try to become more of a man

thanks
 

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Too vague, we need specific examples of the so called 'teasing' plus context, your reaction/comeback, etc...this will be the gauge whether it was just playful teasing on their part or a lack of respect for you
 
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A good comeback is "are you talking? I have something better for you to do with your mouth."
 

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