"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When does No Contact become Never Contact?

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It's been 22 days of NC but I still think about her. She contacted me but only 3 times, the last being 12 days ago when she wished me a happy Easter. I didn't reply to any of her attempts.

In contrast, in our first 22 days after meeting she contacted me no less than 400 times.

I wonder if, at this point, it's a lost cause. Has anyone ever gone longer with NC and actually had the girl come back to you?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have posted this before on this site: NC was NEVER a method to get a girl to come back to you.

It is a method to get YOU, if you couldn't handle interactions with the girl without harming yourself or reverting to an AFC, to get away from her.

Sometimes the girl gets curious as to why you've disappeared but this does not translate into increased interest or sexual attraction like many forum members believe.

I don't know your who situation since you only posted vague details, but if she was only interested in you as a friend and nothing else, you going NC is probably not doing anything other than making her curious why her friend dropped off the map.
 
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We were never friends. When we met she said it was love at first sight and she wanted me to sweep her off her feet. We had an amazing romance. It was LDR though, and I probably treated her too nice to compensate for the distance.
 
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