When do you info the "other" girl on the girl?

[WestCoaster]

OK, I'll try and edit my long-winded stories down. As noted earlier, I'm in a new town with the same ol' gal I was "chasing" all last year. We both ended up getting jobs in the same town. Yeah, we're hanging out again, and despite a couple romantic dates with her a few months ago, I'm back in the friendship zone (her doing, not mine).

Anyway, there's this gal at my old haunts and we're cooresponding a lot and I'm gonna see her in less than a month. I REALLY want to drop the info on the friendship zone gal -- yeah, to make her jealous -- and I need tips on how to do this and get this in the conversation. She's dropped other guys to me and I've shrugged them off and been pissed later (old sosuave post), but now I have my own ammunition. Need some tips.

No flamers or haters or AFC calling please -- I'll just syphon it out one ear and the other. I want a strategy and calling me names won't accomplish anything. It's counterproductive and wastes bandwidth.

Oh yeah, the other gal I'm gonna go see knows all about the gal in my current town.

 

[squirrels]

Whenever you want.

 

[Slickster]

If you go into this trying to tell friendzone girl about someone else she'll know you're trying to make her jealous and it will fail.

Better to try and let her know some other way. She finds a picture, sees you together, hears about her from someone else, etc.

If friendzone girl isn't interested (sounds like she isn't) then none of this will matter any way and you are wasting your time thinking about it and her. However you are doing well to have other options and I hope you will give the new girl a shot even though it sounds like you have some oneitis going here.

I think the strongest statement you could make to friendzone girl would be not giving a sh*t about her any more. She'll notice that. Especially if you've been chasing for awhile. Even if she doesn't give a damn about you she'll notice that you've escaped her web.

So go have a great time with new girl and focus on that. Your attitude towards friendzone will naturally change. Especially when you've been having the time of your life with someone else.

And if friendzone comes around and wants you later on you've now got options. Chances are you probably won't even look at her the same way.

 

[WestCoaster]

Appreciate the feedback

Thanks for all the replies. I actually think the "other" gal is probably better than friendship zone gal, though you're right, some big time oneitis going on there. The problem with the other gal is she's 500 miles away, FZ gal is right here.

Either way, I appreciate the feedback and tips -- keep them coming! As always with this site, great stuff!