When do u give up?

[Jack Lance]

Three weeks ago, I got the phone number of a tall, long hair brunette (a solid 9). She seemed eager to give me her number and even wanted my number as well.

I waited 5 days and called her and left a message on her machine and called back a few days later and got her machine again. I've called 2 more times in the next week and everytime I call, I just get her machine.

She has never returned my call but when I message her, she messages me back, without really hinting why she hasn't called back. Her messages say "I'm not afraid to talk to you" and "I'm just in a chillin' mood"

As far as I'm concerned, I've given up on her, although I'm just wandering if she's purposely testing me.

What do you guys think and what would you have done?

God, never worked so hard for a girl before!

 

[DJ Alejandro]

ur showin too much interest even if you think your laid back.

get her ee-mail add. start from there. dont look so needy.

 

[silverwex]

NEXT man.

Go out, mack some other chicks.

This way you'll be:

1) Getting other girls numbers and having a fun time with new girls.

and

2) This girl will see you (probably) and possibly get jealous - increasing her IL in you.

Try to forget her and let HER come to YOU - DONT CHASE HER.

Peace.

 

[tiburon]

mistakes

look honestly us to hard toi say whats up with the girl but you have made some essential mistakes.......

FIRST ..YOU NEVER LEAVE A MESSAGE IN A ANSWERING MACHINE.......EVEN IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING THE GIRL FOR !) YEARS .......ANSWERING MACHINES ARE FOR EMERGENCIES OR FOR WOMEN TO LEAVE YOU MESSAGES NOT FOR YOU TO USE....

THere are others mistakes but this is the main one...OHH and before i forget..... about getting her email......THATS A NO NO.
The reason for this is that the email is too FIRENDLY...she gives it to you withouit asking ...or if she really wants to get in contact with you and your phone doesnt work( like mine right now) ...you tell her to email you....She is going to say i dont have your email and you respond by saying that you are about to fix that...Il promise she will email you back that day or the next.. BE REAL...

Tiburon

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Jack Lance
...
She has never returned my call but when I message her, she messages me back, without really hinting why she hasn't called back. Her messages say "I'm not afraid to talk to you" and "I'm just in a chillin' mood"...

I want to add something. Why in the world would she say "I'm not afraid to talk to you???" The only reason I can think of is that you did a MAJOR AFC move like saying to her "Why don't you call me, are you afraid of me or something?"

In a nutshell, you've done and said things that a desperate AFC would do. Stop the frantic puppy act and get some control over yourself. Getting a #close from a HB means nothing if you scare them away.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Whatever messages you left are OBVIOUSLY not messages that you should have left... oh well.

To answer your question, I'll next a girl at the first sign of disrespect. I'll next a girl that mentions her ex in the wrong way, ie 'my ex used to x' GONE.
I'll next a girl after 3 calls without an answer.

Next btw doesn't necessarily mean for good. It just means that she's no longer near the top of my list.

 

[Cheiradawg]

Give up when:

1) It is hard.
2) You feel tired.

 

[PlayerinTraining]

Originally posted by Jack Lance

She has never returned my call but when I message her, she messages me back, without really hinting why she hasn't called back. Her messages say "I'm not afraid to talk to you" and "I'm just in a chillin' mood"

As far as I'm concerned, I've given up on her, although I'm just wandering if she's purposely testing me.

What do you guys think and what would you have done?

God, never worked so hard for a girl before!

Just curious, what did you ask her in order to get the reply "I'm not afraid to talk to you."

Man, the handwriting is on the wall.

"I'm not afraid to talk to you" is ******** for "I thought you would have taken the hint by now. Are you some sort of stalker?"

The way I see it--going after women is meant to be FUN!

If she doesn't bring any fun to your life, she isn't worth it.

The moment setting up a date with a woman makes you feel like used car salesman, or a telemarketer--it is time to put that woman on your personal DO NOT EVER CALL AGAIN list.

 

[Omega]

Leaving a message isn't bad if it's done right.

I called her a girl 3 times in a day, she didn't pick up. So I rang back and left a message saying


"Hey, it's R3N3GAD3! Call me back"

Then, I hung up. She called like, 30 mins later. You don't tell them what you want, you just order them to call you, that way it creates mystery as to what you could possibly want.

 

[golf299]

yeah, agreed...sometimes its ok to leave a message. i was having trouble contacting one of my recent pickups, a CA. i would call her and no answer. she would call me and i would miss it. finally i left a message saying "hey HB7.5 its golf299. it looks like we're playing phone tag and i guess you're it!" she called back within the hour.

 

[Jack Lance]

yeah, i was acting desperate

now i think of it, i kinda feel a bit embarassed about being such a desperate AFC and losing my cool. (that ain't me!!!!)

yeah, i've deleted her number and i'm already moving on.

i'll keep the "leave an unusual name on her answering machine tip" in mind.

thanks.