When did you start enjoying approaching?

[Furyguy]

It's kind of like working out. Since I began, I've always loved and enjoyed lifting simply for the pleasure of the act itself.

Meanwhile I have friends who hate going to the gym, are completely results-focused, and only get themselves there by forcing themselves to do it because they know they 'should.'

These people invariably lose interest and quit for a while, then come back and half-ass it, etc.

Which is essentially what pick-up is like for me. Some periods of serious approaching met with mixed results. On rare occasions I do really enjoy it. Most of the time though I'm just like the guy who forces himself to go to the gym because it's "something I know I should be doing."

Did any of you guys get around this? Make it something you really love doing?

 

[seansi]

yes get a membership at a gym where theres lots of hot women.

motivation is key

 

[Diaforetikos]

Stop trying to make that your life goal. Its a phase. You'll finally get it, ans then move on. But to get it, it can't be work. If its work, stop doing it. There is no point to do it if you don't enjoy it. I always liked doing it. The eye candy was enough motivation. Then you realize your getting better and you subconsciously keep testingyour limits.

Go back to doing what you were doing before you started pickup. But remember all that you've learned and put it into practice when you feel like doing it.

 

[Tortendieb]

I agree with you Diaforetikos, but if I take it easy as you say, I get lazy and stop going out and making dates altogether.

For this reason I need to force myself to go out, and some time into the evening it actually becomes fun for me.

But maybe you're right, it's gotten alot better since I first started out.