When did you ruin your life?

[Pair A Dice]

None of us like to admit it, but at some point in our lives, we turned our lives around for the worse. It takes forever to work it around to a point where you might not be able to forget about what happened, but tolerate it.

For me, I fvcked my life up in high school and college.

Even though I was a star athlete -- cross-country and track (yeah, I know) -- I sabotaged myself by lying and ostracizing myself. Not sure why I did it, but I did.

I went the opposite of everyone, deciding it was better to live my life in contrary to what should have been. It went through high school and college.

I lied throughout both and killed any relationships with people that mattered, at least to me. Right now, I have few friends and would have enjoyed if I didn't fvck it up originally.

When did you fvck it up? How did you turn it around?

Right now, it's increasingly difficult to make sh!t worthwhile.

--C'est la vie--

 

[Desdinova]

Getting married was my point, but I wouldn't say that it was a 'fvck up'. Instead, it's just one hell of an experience to learn from.

I make an effort to stay positive in everything I do. Separation and divorce isn't an ending, but a beginning to a new and better life. Going on a diet isn't a necessity because you're too fat, it's a journey to becoming a better-looking and healthier person.

The fvck ups are only fvck ups if you view them that way. I'd rather see them as glitches in my life.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Pair of Dice,
Why so despondent?.....most people have bad patches,but you just have to pick your bundle up and get on with life...I think the problem with people today is that their expectations are unrealistic...are things really that bad?

 

[Tony T]

^^ True Dat !

I thought i ruined my life after getting arrested a FEW TIMES. Just part of being a young man...and getting involved with the wrong people...and NOT THINKING RIGHT!

Get your thinking Right!

You are YOUNG..! ! !

Get into a positive frame of mind...and the your whole world will change.

"When you change the way you look at things..the things you look at change."
-W.Dyer.

 

[Pair A Dice]

To those who have responded, I appreciate it.

Espi, you raise a good point. Normally, I try to look at the positive side of things, but it's increasingly difficult for myself these days.

Scaramouche, things aren't great right now. Due to killing any relationships I had before with my ways, I can only call one person my true friend. He and I are very close, even though we live 2,000 miles from each other (I moved away from home for my job). Down here, I live in a college town and it's difficult to invade social circles without an in. I guess you could say I have 'friends' in another city about 25 minutes to the north, but they were all met through a PUA Lair and they are only focused on getting poon and not doing anything productive. Plus, my job leaves me little time to go do things like joining sports leagues and such. It just piles on in my mind and then finally explodes the point where I want life to change and I go out and try to change it, but nothing seems to work. Last night it just hit HARD.

 

[corrector]

When I committed suicide and died. Right now, only a ghost of my former self remains of my disembodies soul, writing posts on this site. I don't actually exist physically and now just haunt people while they are sleeping.

 

[Zunder]

If you feel you have fvcked up your life - then you have. If you feel it thats all that matters - and its ok to talk about it on a forum like this.

Thing is, you are only 26, and trust me that is a sh!t load of time to make positive changes.

Personally - I have made so many mistakes its a fvcking wonder I am still alive. I have most definitely fvcked up parts of my life...but guess what - I am in early 40's and I reckon I still gotta whole sh!tload of good life to live - mistakes of the past notwithstanding.

I have only one true friend as well. he is a good fella and I have known him for 20+ years. I see less of him now that he has found a good woman, but I know I can call him up anytime about anything whether it be to talk about sports or talk about someone pesonal matter or whatever.

Trust me - some people have the appearance of having lots of friends but in reality they are as lonely as fvck with no one to talk to about "real" things and instead get caught up in all the inane BS that floods our everyday lives these days....why do you think National Inquirer sells so well? People have no other life or no real friends so they lose themselves in some trash mag reading about which Hollywood star is fvcking who, or which of them just went into or out of rehab.

Yeah - so acknowledge your mistakes but try to realise that most people make fvck ups, most people are insecure, most people go through life with blinkers on and just accept things the way they are.

Well, I call BS on that - things don't have to be the way they are for YOU.

Find some goal, some ideal, some hobby someTHING that you want to do or be and forumulate a mini plan of the steps you are going to take to make that goal happen - write it all down if you must.

I always come back to this: You are here ONCE - you gotta be your own man and decide what makes you happy and then make decisions along the way to make that happiness more than a fleeting feeling. And just be thankful that despite the fvcked up despot world we live in - you at least live in a place where you get a chance to make decisions for yourself...some poor basterds live in places where they have to dig a fresh hole each morning just to take a sh!t - be thankful that aint you.