Social_Leper said:
All women are replaceable
( . )( . ) said:
This however I can't get on board with. For example and without trying to sound like a braggadouchio (I'm really not): The mother of my child doesn't smoke or drink, rarely swears, no tattoo's, no facebook, softly spoken, genuine feminine grace, strong nurturing instinct and hot. (No oneitis)
Now the amount of sub-par sh!t I had to wade through to find this gem is quite frankly embarrassing for me to even disclose. If things were to turn pear shaped with this one there is no way on Gods green earth I'm finding a replacement. At least in a hurry and without purchasing a plane ticket. So yes I agree chicks are replaceable but so is a million dollars, if you get my meaning.
I also have to disagree with that statement.
Honestly up until about a year ago, I had the same philosophy. I adopted it after a really unhealthy profound oneitis spanning almost 3 years. I think as a newbie, or a guy fresh out of oneitis hell, you have to. You need to be steely about the replace-ability of women lest you fall into the same emotional torment you came from.
Like t!ts however, I have been blessed with a gem of a woman who has brought only good, positive things into my life. Young, beautiful, soft feminine demeanor, a virgin, good intact family with an excellent motherly role model, same spiritual beliefs, no drinking smoking or partying, and has almost no real past negative experiences with men. When I talk about her it sounds like over-the-top pedestalizing, and my friends have accused me of such, but I am just stating the facts.
I look at it like this: It is a recognition of value. I've sorted through so many undesirable women in my life (more than I care to admit), that I recognize value when I see it. It was BECAUSE of all this that I saw her value. If I met her as a 23 year old AFC I would have squandered those riches without even realizing it.
Say a man was walking through a stony wasteland, for years and years. Throughout his journey he finds many stones, some pretty and mildly valuable, but mostly common ore. Then one day he happens upon a true gem---and after a moment he realizes what he has found. Would the man discard this gem or wait till he finds a bigger one? No, he would keep it and guard it faithfully. That gem would become his treasure, because he knows its rarity. Could there be others like it? Probably, but the odds of him finding another in his lifetime are almost nil.
HOWEVER---Even finding a girl like this doesn't excuse the need for game. You cant lose sight of your manhood and the lessons you have learned. That would be foolish. The same game tenets still apply, it is just much easier to apply them.