when being too harsh to gf?

[Jair213]

Gf: you have the best gf. I'm a blessing to you.
Me. Nobody is special or a blessing.
Gf: stays quiet.

I end conversation and say bye.

Thoughts? Haha

 

[abe0]

Why create unnecessary conflicts where no conflict existed.....its okay to be nice and I agree with Danger. Turn it around and see how that would make you feel. Abe

 

[DragonBlood]

Well thats true I know what I like/I have good taste etc

Should of kept it light bro like hanging with your buds. That comeback would have sucked the energy out of any conversation. Thats some dark ass psycho **** you threw down.

 

[Jair213]

The thing is shes ****y as fvckkk when it comes to things like that. I didn't say it in a harsh evil way. Haha I said it in a sarcastic kind off way. I didn't come off as a mean jerk. And I had to go that's why I hung up.

Before that though she had told me that 2 of her ex bf liked our pic on fb and I was like ''cool'' and then she was all like ''yeah they wish they were in your place'' I ignored and change the topic and right after is when she said that haha

 

[Jair213]

Well thats true I know what I like/I have good taste etc

Should of kept it light bro like hanging with your buds. That comeback would have sucked the energy out of any conversation. Thats some dark ass psycho **** you threw down.

Hey bro maybe I was a little harsh but on some psycho level? Lol

 

[Jair213]

Why create unnecessary conflicts where no conflict existed.....its okay to be nice and I agree with Danger. Turn it around and see how that would make you feel. Abe

No conflict was.created bro.

 

[DragonBlood]

Well, you said nobody is special. Not even you then? It came across like your capable of anything and dont give a ****. Although I read it in a serious tone.

Anyway, the main problem here is congruence. Theres no vibe here.

she had told me that 2 of her ex bf liked our pic on fb and I was like ''cool'' and then she was all like ''yeah they wish they were in your place''

Sounds like your indifference is starting to really dig at her self-esteem. She really wants you to kiss her ass and is prying for weakness, or at least SOME validation. She is sort of projecting what she wants to hear from you "your the best girl ever" "Im lucky to have you" etc. Play some push pull.

Yeah I like being spoiled etc etc.


Or just ignore her comments, the main mistake is buying into HER frame, and her way of thinking instead of having a good time. If these little chips kept coming in though I would probably start losing interest tbh. As it moves from her being kind of ****y now and then to her just dissin you instead of enjoying you.

 

[El Payaso]

She's looking for an orbiter and you didn't give her that pleasure. Great job.

 

[Jair213]

Well, you said nobody is special. Not even you then? It came across like your capable of anything and dont give a ****. Although I read it in a serious tone.

Anyway, the main problem here is congruence. Theres no vibe here.



Sounds like your indifference is starting to really dig at her self-esteem. She really wants you to kiss her ass and is prying for weakness, or at least SOME validation. She is sort of projecting what she wants to hear from you "your the best girl ever" "Im lucky to have you" etc. Play some push pull.

Yeah I like being spoiled etc etc.


Or just ignore her comments, the main mistake is buying into HER frame, and her way of thinking instead of having a good time. If these little chips kept coming in though I would probably start losing interest tbh. As it moves from her being kind of ****y now and then to her just dissin you instead of enjoying you.

Yeah she's thrown a couple of **** tests at me
And I just act indifferent and unaffected by them.
So she's increased her ****y comments by a lot.
And also this has caused her to seek validation from me.

I'm just chilled and laid back while I bet her hamster go's crazy lol

I notice this has also caused her to be more affectionate towards me though.

 

[Jair213]

we texted today and she brought this up.

Her: OMG everytime I have a bf everyone desides to let me know they have feelings for me, 5 guys total since we have being together.
Me: Thats great. Its always good to have other options.
Her: Yeah but I don't care about those other options.



I left it at that. and havent replied. :crackup:

 

[collosuss]

we texted today and she brought this up.

Her: OMG everytime I have a bf everyone desides to let me know they have feelings for me, 5 guys total since we have being together.
Me: Thats great. Its always good to have other options.
Her: Yeah but I don't care about those other options.



I left it at that. and havent replied. :crackup:

Niceee...