When an EX phones up, saying "you're the onlu one I can talk to about this"

[runner83]

No, we were really close and the relationship didn't end on a bitter note.

I'm not trying to score points or revenger fvck her or anything.

My interest in her isn't very high, so when I meet her I'll do the right thing and be there as a friend.

I won't be a doormat of course, I'll be there on MY TERMS and my terms alone, anything happens I don't like then I'm gone and back into NC again for however long is needed...maybe indefinitly.

OP, standard response in situation like this, as parroted by some of others, is along the lines of "Go NC", or "Don't be an emotional tampon/ white knight".

That is appropriate for situations where it did end on a bitter note. Generally guys who just say this without relating to context are reflecting past bitterness in their own past.

But in this case, judging from your posts, you sound like you have it together and won't get emotionally attached. If you reckon you can go into it as friends and not really care what happens, then I don't see an issue.

If it's a family issue, then helping her isn't called "being an emotional tampon", it's called helping another human being.

But if she starts going on about other guys, draw the line there and walk away straight away.