"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When "Amogging" goes wrong

Should I cut him off?

  • No--It's forgivable

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Solomon

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So last night I was out on the field, an acuqistance and I were doing our rounds. He is a good guy, tons of social proof, ladies the whole nine.
So he is introducing me to his group of friends, and I'm shooting the breeze with them, then one of the guys who was there with his girlfriend tells me

Boyfriendguy: Dude you should dance with my girlfriend
Solo:U sure?:confused:
Boyfriendguy: yeah dude she wants to dance and I can't
Solo: eerm ok:nervous:
Boyfriendguy: just don't grab her ass:D​
So we start dancing and she is like totally into it, all of a sudden out of the blue this guy tried kissing her :confused:

BOyfrienddude: dude wtf? that's my girlfriend​

I turn to look, and it's a buddy of mine(not the one that I'm rolling with), now the girl is tweaking out, cause we just chilling having fun and this buddy (lets call him dumbass) came out of nowhere trying to suck face with her. The BF springs up and basically tells him to F-off and is ready to put the wally moops on him. "Dumbass" is drunk as a skunk. I felt embrassed for dude

I didn't say anyhting though, but I knew why he did it, he figured "hey If I Amog Solo, it would forever shut him the f**k up" but I lost tons of respect for him after that

I haven't talked to him, but would you cut him of or what? honestly it didn't bug me until I talked to my best friend, and he pointed out. "even if you weren't trying to get with the girl, the fact that he would do that, whether drunk or not is a major sign of disrespect.."

thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scars

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Yeah, it's time to find a new wing. That is completely disrespectful, a wing is supposed to have your back and should be somebody you can trust %100. I've tried going out with a few buddies and had this happen to me before, it even almost ended a few friendships. I guess some guys are better suited for this than others. I only have my one wingman, and that's all I need. I know he'll always have my back and I'll always have his, I would take a bullet for that homie.
 

Solomon

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yeah I just got of the phone with dude
there is no accontablity what so ever
He basically was saying that "he didn't know" and in his mind all girls are free for all. I told him he needs to be accountable for his actions and calibrate a situation better, and he said "well the girl shoulda moved her head" blah blah
for every reason I brought up he brought up a lame counter reason,eventually I hung up on his ass, I don't have time to deal with people who aren't willing to hold themselves accountable for their actions

He coulda got whooly mopped and in my mind rightfully so, as men it's important when we go out that we have a code, even if she is not my girl the fact that he would try to pull some shiit like that to me is wack......
 

Scars

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That's a crock of sh!t.

He saw that you were dancing with this girl. The fact that she is yours or not is irrelevant. What if she was your girl? How do you know he wont try to do the same thing again with a future gf, except this time you're not around?

It's not cool to get in the middle of your homie and his girl, it's just part of the unwritten laws.
 

Solomon

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Scars said:
That's a crock of sh!t.

He saw that you were dancing with this girl. The fact that she is yours or not is irrelevant. What if she was your girl? How do you know he wont try to do the same thing again with a future gf, except this time you're not around?

It's not cool to get in the middle of your homie and his girl, it's just part of the unwritten laws.
I agree Scars his apology was half-ass to me(trying to blame it on the booze mostly), and he kept trying to justify himself that he wasn't wrong, like I said I hung up on him. One day I told him this, some guy is gonna hit him, and I won't scrape him of the ground

and i agree there are unwritten laws and codes, now we gonna have to sit down and make a Wingman lawbook? really?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Prozac

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So was it a glancing kiss, a lingering kiss as she realizes she doesn't know this guy, or did he french her?
 

Nexus Polaris

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Guy sounds like a troll. Certainly not a quality wing. Not really even a good friend. Drop his ass.
 

Alle_Gory

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Don't be so quick. If he's got a few marbles in that head he might think about this and come up with a decent apology. Mistakes happen, how he recovers is how should be judged.

But that's just me...
 
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