"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When a woman waits a day or two to reply to your text/call, could it be a sh@t test?

loveorlust

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... to weed out the less confident, insecure men? For example, in swingers Mike was obviously insecure as hell when he dialed that chick like a hundred times. I'm thinking maybe some girls NATURALLY do this to separate the secure men from the insecure boys. Cause I've been Mike on several occasions, I'm embarrassed to say. And it was a sure-fire way to lose the chick! Also could some women do it on purpose, because they've seen how it has served them well to reveal the Mike in a man?

oh and if you don't know what the f@#$ you're talking about cause all you do is spend time talking sh@t on forums like this one, please keep your advice to yourself but do keep in mind you're welcomed to participate in my thread when you got some experience... don't mention it ;)

Thanks,
Loveorlust
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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JoelyBoy

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In my experience, if a girl regularly waits a long time to reply, I think she's not interested. I was seeing this girl, she would take an hour to reply and then I would reply alomst immediately, she must have still had her phone on her as she had just replied. She would then take another hour to reply....
Needless to say we're not together now!
 

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Doesn't matter. It's only a dig at you if you take it as one; She might have stuff to do... as should you!

All that matters is if she comes out for a meet-up, and how she responds to escalation once you're there.
 

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Some do it as a test. In my younger years I had a girl who'd wait up to days to reply. But I played it off cool. Come to think of it I was an idiot jumping through that many hoops for her. Needless to say I wasted alot of time on her and by the end of it when she started becoming interested in me, I ditched her.
 

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yes and no, at first it could just be their thing, a bit of an annoying power trip. but if continues, no interest.

But it shouldn't matter really because with the right mindset, non of that sh*t should matter to you. F*ck em.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So what if she thinks she's 'testing' you? If she wants to bang you she will meet up and bang you regardless of whether a text was read at 10:03 or 10:25.
 

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No, she just isn't interested. If she apologises and makes an excuse you just give her a strike. If she doesn't then she just is not interested.
 

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be glad she even responded!
 

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If she takes days to reply, she's not interested. If she only takes hours to reply, she could be busy. Then there's situations like my gf who's phone doesn't make any noise because it's a POS made by LG.

There's also external issues like how slow your provider or network is.
 

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Responsiveness is something I look for, and if she takes lots of time to respond to texts or calls on a regular basis I move on unless her actions are speaking otherwise about her.

If one is truly interested there will be no question she will respond with the quickness.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd put that down to a low interest level. There have been occasions where I have received a text, looked at it, couldn't reply then and there, so I left it and forgot about it, but that was usually from friends and family. If it's a girl that I'm keen on then I won't forget to reply, I'll wait until I am less busy (usually the evening) to reply.
 
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