You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Once again people think there are a certain set of 'rules' to dates. Avoiding dates, making women jealous, postponing on hopes of making them want you more, etc.Pathgen said:How long have you known this woman? First date say your busy and plan your own terms with her. However, at a certain point after a few dates to a month you can accept their terms in my opinion.
Depends on how long before she postpones. Last minute i say no. She calls a day ahead or a couple of hours i might consider it. She does this more than once in a row goodbye
Once again depends on how late she cancels on you. Last minute be a bit pissed about it. However, if she has a legitimate excuse give her another chance. (Legitimate excuse = my dads in the hospital). Im ok with cancelling a day before cuase sometimes **** comes up. Like before then she cancels more than once in a row next her
Key points you should take away from that.WC2 said:...These are games for little boys.
Men don't need to play games.
If a woman asks you on a date and it sounds like something you want to do, then by all means accept it. You don't have to sound excited as hell about it, but tell her that you think you could probably make it.
...Less thinking, more action...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Is it just me or are some people just analysing things a LITTLE too much these days? I mean for a start, why in god's name would you break it off with a woman because she's trying to setup a date with you :crackup:2.0 said:If a woman wants to set a date with you and gives you an exact time and setting, what should you do? Should you tell her you're busy then plan the date on your own terms, or should you say yes, or should you break it off with her permanently? Also, if you already have a date set and she calls to postpone, should you agree to the new time? What should you do? Also, what should you do if a girl cancels a date completely?
This seems like a good idea. Thank you.Pathgen said:How long have you known this woman? First date say your busy and plan your own terms with her. However, at a certain point after a few dates to a month you can accept their terms in my opinion.
I think you're right. I don't have time for that. Thanks.Depends on how long before she postpones. Last minute i say no. She calls a day ahead or a couple of hours i might consider it. She does this more than once in a row goodbye
If she doesn't give an excuse should you ask for one or just next her?Once again depends on how late she cancels on you. Last minute be a bit pissed about it. However, if she has a legitimate excuse give her another chance. (Legitimate excuse = my dads in the hospital). Im ok with cancelling a day before cuase sometimes **** comes up. Like before then she cancels more than once in a row next her
Thanks for your response.WC2 said:Once again people think there are a certain set of 'rules' to dates. Avoiding dates, making women jealous, postponing on hopes of making them want you more, etc.
These are games for little boys.
Men don't need to play games.
If a woman asks you on a date and it sounds like something you want to do, then by all means accept it. You don't have to sound excited as hell about it, but tell her that you think you could probably make it.
If the date sounds corny and boring, tell her that you've got something that won't bore the hell out of you two.
Don't make too much of setting up dates. It's what happens on these dates that makes or breaks it for men.
Lastly, if you're too worried about what she thinks about you then you're already on a losing path.
Less thinking, more action, and more having fun. If you go into these things looking to have fun and make this woman laugh then there isn't much stopping you.
If a woman cancels on you, then so what. Don't act 'pissed' about it. Just move on to your next target. If she really had a legitimate reason to cancel and had interest in you, then she will be back for more.
Okay, so it's not too important that I be the one to set the date? I guess that makes sense. Thank you for your help.jdon23 said:There is NOTHING wrong with accepting her date!! Take it as her interested in getting to know you better. She's definately attracted to you, so it will be even easier to get the interaction to a physical level.
Don't be too available, and show her that you have your own life- but would pass up a night to spend it with her (IF YOU THINK SHE'S WORTH IT)