"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There have been few situations where the woman I have been seeing (somewhat regularly) would say, "If you are seeing other women, I don't want to know about it." Or "if, you have slept with some other woman during your out-of-town business tours, please don't tell me about it."

Now what does it relate to in terms of my relationship with this woman? Throw me some insights please!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PVSSY-EATER

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ohhhh.....that is good bro.

That means she is really interested in you, and telling her about how you have other women liking you now or about other women liking you in the past will make her a little jealous....

heeeyyyyy...you got her number bro!
 

the_great_gaia

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OR..

It could mean that she doesn't want you to know that she's doing exactly what she's asking you NOT to tell her. She's cloudly your mind with her doubt of trust in you so that she doesn't feel guilty about fucc-ing some other guy while you're out of town. I mean, she just comes out of the blue with this, right? She's up to something, bro... trust me.
 

DJDamage

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Both Pvssy and gaia are correct, it could be this or it could be that.

You need to find out how and why she wished to give you a great DJ tip: If you dating and seeing other women, keep your mouth shut about it because it is highly unatractive to talk about other women to your date. Be evasive and never give out a stright answer, its a sh1t test.

Its a catch 22: She wants to know that you are desired by other women and if that is the case she does not want you to date those women but her. But if you drop those other women for her then all of the sudden you will become less desireable in her eyes. You are the man to decide when or if you are going to let that happen and not because of her wishes.
 

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Originally posted by DJDamage
Both Pvssy and gaia are correct, it could be this or it could be that.

You need to find out how and why she wished to give you a great DJ tip: If you dating and seeing other women, keep your mouth shut about it because it is highly unatractive to talk about other women to your date. Be evasive and never give out a stright answer, its a sh1t test.

Its a catch 22: She wants to know that you are desired by other women and if that is the case she does not want you to date those women but her. But if you drop those other women for her then all of the sudden you will become less desireable in her eyes. You are the man to decide when or if you are going to let that happen and not because of her wishes.
Or you could just not care, make no reply other than 'okay' and contine doing whatever you're doing.

If you've been together for over a year you could throw in that you don't cheat (unless of course you do), but doing so in a way that tells her you are not waiting for her to make a similar statement.

- HV
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Bartender

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Originally posted by High Voltage
Or you could just not care, make no reply other than 'okay' and contine doing whatever you're doing.

I go with this one personally.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I go with this one personally.
I agree too. It's really none of her d@mn business what you have done prior to meeting her and telling her anything about any indiscretions you've had while dating her will never help anything. Just keep on keeping on...
 

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If this were at the end of a long monogamous relationship, she want to protect herself from pain.

More than likely though, yeah, she just wants to be able f*ck other guys and avoid guilt. (I'd ditch her if that's the case. It makes sense for a guy to want this, but not for a girl that thinks highly of her man.)
 

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I think she is protesting too much -- she's raising a topic she is worried about but feigning disinterest, or pretending to not want to know about it. It depends on the tone.
 
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