"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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warrior1

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dude? This is even worst than her saying you're like a brother to me right?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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seagull

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There's no set law for how the word "dude" is used.
 

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dude! don't take it so hard dude. wait, you are a dude right?
 

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Dude, it's a word. I'm frightened you actually created a thread b/c of it. Chill! ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lebRambo

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warrior1 said:
dude? This is even worst than her saying you're like a brother to me right?
are you serious? Come on man, stop over analyzing everything. Just live in the moment and don't go home after chatting to a chick and psyche yourself out of stuff just because of some trifling little thing. Calm down and enjoy, man! :)
 

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If a women calls you 'dude' what she means is 'dud'. Women are use to dealing with things the long way around and hence tend to use long forms contrary to men who keep it short and simple and use short forms.

That should take care your mind for a couple of days.. :rolleyes:

hold it melon, just kiddin. :wave:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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warrior1

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definitely don't want a woman calling me cute intead of hot. Are there any woman that might call their guy friend dude that she finds attractive or is there not a chance.

I find that if a woman calls you dude your just a friend or their a bit tomboyish?
 

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No need to take offense if a girl calls you dude...

It shows she is

a) comfortable around you
b) in touch with her masculine side

I read somewhere that girls calling guys "dude" is the equalivant of guys calling girls "babe" , not sure how accurate that statement is...but go with it.

Ive been called "dude" several times by girls and I think its more because they are comfortable talking to me...

I would , however, in your case and in general rather have the girl say "hey babe" or "hey sexy" . I get that alot , but sometimes a girl may say "dude" try not to over analyze it... rather analyze the other things about her ,

Her interest level for starters?
 

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I live in California...I call everybody "Dude". No insult intended or taken. Sounds better than "Hey YOU!"
 

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a) comfortable around you
agreed, I call my guy friends dude

b) in touch with her masculine side
lol..um, I guess.. I mean my guy friends treat me like how they would treat their male friends..

honestly you "might" be reading to much into it, some girls use the word "dude" out of habit.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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