When a Girl writes you off in front of people

[Dave111]

Like the situation I was in last night, when I went out for a few drinks with some work mates. This girl I work with is pretty hot and usually gets a lot of attention from guys wherever she goes.
I am good mates with her, and at one point was interested in taking things further, but I think that has past me buy now and I've decided to move on and pursue other girls.

Ive kissed her before on a drunken night out, but nothing else has ever really came of it.

I do find myself attracted to this girl, but I dont see her as girlfriend material as she is an attention seeker and she tries lead guys on all the time.

She was the one that called me up to ask if I wanted to join her up town, so I agreed as my other mates were gonna be there, so she came and picked me up from my house. Last night I was having a drink with this chick and another girl who works with me and the conversation started on relationships, when all of a sudden she blurted out "me and Dave could never go out, were not compatable"!, I just laughed and continued having the conversation. I was thinking about what she said, how does she know were incompatable when we've never really been together.

Now this girl is texting me all the time and asking me out with her to the cinema, restraunts etc etc and then whenever I do show interest she shoots me down, I've decided to next here from now on, but I'm confused,

any takes on this?

 

[Jimbo2k]

you guys are friends and she enjoys your company.

 

[dietzcoi]

You are in the friend zone with her... she doesn't see you as BF material.

Personally I would not take the disrespect... find new friends. After all, you are only hanging around like an AFC hoping against hope that she will change her mind and date you.

Forget it, won't happen

Dietzcoi

 

[xblitz44x]

I disagree. If it came "from left field" then it has a lot more relevance than you think. If she truely thought of you as a friend she would have never been compelled to say ANYTHING about you and her in a relationship at all. *She* came up with it and she threw it out there, all on her own. It's not like somebody said "Hey, what about you and Dave...". So I'm thinking that she put it out there to test your reaction to it.

You just said that you don't want anything with her, so none of this will really matter. Right But, I'm just speaking hypothetically, *if* you wanted to, which you said you don't, you could get with this girl again. Go out with her in the same type of scenario. Have a side conversation with her. And be pretty blatent. Tell her "Hey, I was thinking about what you said about you and I not being compatible...I think we should test that out. Lets meet up for something to eat." Get her number and take it from there.

 

[Dave111]

yeah suppose

either way it doesn't matter anyway, I've just set up another date
with a girl I met last week, so there we go!

It's her loss at the end of the day, because I'm a great guy with loads to offer women..

 

[xblitz44x]

"It's her loss at the end of the day, because I'm a great guy with loads to offer women.."

Yep of course. You never wanted her to begin with. I forgot.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Now this girl is texting me all the time and asking me out with her to the cinema, restraunts etc etc and then whenever I do show interest she shoots me down, I've decided to next here from now on, but I'm confused,

Confused...I'm not surprised. she is a player.

Next time accept if she is willing to pay! then you become a Mack!

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
Tell her "Hey, I was thinking about what you said about you and I not being compatible...I think we should test that out. Lets meet up for something to eat." Get her number and take it from there.

Man, don't invite her to eat. You invite her to your house for dessert. Forcrisakes!

Chicks like that constantly feel the need to test out and see if they still have control over you. They want to feel they are still relevant and have you at their command.

 

[xblitz44x]

First of all, if she wants him at all, it won't matter if he goes out somewhere, or not. The point is to get into a setting where neither of them have to 'perform' around other people that they both know. When you are one-on-one, it's easier to connect. If he takes her out somewhere, and things go south....TRUST ME, it's not the location of where they ate that did it. And if it was, the interest was never in him.

Second, I don't know if you nor I have the ability to make THAT type of assessment that you made, based on the information that he provided. The "TYPE" of girl that you're speaking of, is a generalization. And if he generalizes and starts behaving in a way to "handle" those "types", without understanding her as an invidual...he will fvck this thing up beyond repair. Assumptions will *always* do that. Why bother, just pay attention.