When a girl that you know likes you...

[Randomer]

I'll set it up first... last night this girl who i know likes me kept acting really weird and asking if her brother or my other friend told me anything about her, later that night my one friend told me something about her and even later that night i told her that he told me "something" about her but I didn't say anything. anyway she just sent me this message:

hey wats up randomer? wat did friend 1 tell u lastnight bout me? did he tell u i like u? cuz i dont like u dat way i jus like u has a friend. friend 1 thought i did but we were jus making jokes an he wouldnt leave so i jus said dat so he would leave. no hard feelings

ill call u if i have a chance to xplain more


Oh... btw, yea she has my number after she asked one of my/her friends for it, hehe... anyway I don't really care that much bout this one chick, i have plenty of others and actually she's a little too young for me personally but as I was about to reply, I wasn't even addressing what she said about trying to LJBF me (I know she likes me btw... as more than a friend, lol) and I became curious as to what I would've said had it been someone i really wanted to get with or still might say should that ever happen. So My question to all of u Don Juans out there is... How would u reply to the LJBF **** test? She just got me off balance with 1) her statement and more importantly 2) the way she came at me so nice trying to not hurt my feelings and all that stuff, i guess it's because we have so many friends in common... Anyway! I look forward to the replies!

 

[S0LID]

NOOOO WAY????? She knows you like her????? ohhhhh hell!! I think the best thing you can do is NEVER talk to her again...

 

[jigga23]

just play it cool and agree with whatever she says. atleast show it you could think differently. a girl controls where a relationship goes espcially in the beginning. just agree wtih her and dont say anything else. just tell her thats cool.

 

[Bvbidd]

just play it cool and agree with whatever she says. atleast show it you could think differently. a girl controls where a relationship goes espcially in the beginning. just agree wtih her and dont say anything else. just tell her thats cool.

^^^
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[Randomer]

NOOOO WAY????? She knows you like her????? ohhhhh hell!! I think the best thing you can do is NEVER talk to her again...

If you didn't read my first post, just don't post anything in here. She thinks that her friend told me that she likes me is what happened and with that, her ASD went up and so she had to message me saying she doesn't.

Your post is completely irrelevant to this thread...

 

[d9930380]

jigga23 - Is exactly right, a girl controls where the relationship goes in the beginning. We would like to believe that we're in control (being the alpha male and all) but we aren't, at that stage she is just making up her mind if she would like to go further. If you pressurise her or smother her, she will run a mile.

Either way, IMO you handled it correctly.

 

[vp171s]

If you didn't read my first post, just don't post anything in here. She thinks that her friend told me that she likes me is what happened and with that, her ASD went up and so she had to message me saying she doesn't.

Your post is completely irrelevant to this thread...

He has a point though. Whatever you do, don't tell her you like her. If she trully like you, she'll try to win YOU over.

 

[Yuriy777]

^ jigga23 & d9930380 ^

I disagree that a woman [naturally] controls where the relationship goes (at the beginning or otherwise unless you give her the power to do so).
In my opinion you should have the control over where it goes with her options being either (1) Accept, (2) Reject, or (3) Compromise.

Just like any good salesperson knows that he/she is really making a decision on most of the customer's buying behavior (More expensive model because it has better features, etc.).

Everyone knows you don’t say, “Would you like to buy a widget?” (Loss of control over the situation/buy)
You say, “Would you like a red widget or blue widget, a 6” widget or a 12” widget, etc.” (Maintenance of control)

 

[vp171s]

^ jigga23 & d9930380 ^

I disagree that a woman [naturally] controls where the relationship goes (at the beginning or otherwise unless you give her the power to do so).
In my opinion you should have the control over where it goes with her options being either (1) Accept, (2) Reject, or (3) Compromise.

Just like any good salesperson knows that he/she is really making a decision on most of the customer's buying behavior (More expensive model because it has better features, etc.).

Everyone knows you don’t say, “Would you like to buy a widget?” (Loss of control over the situation/buy)
You say, “Would you like a red widget or blue widget, a 6” widget or a 12” widget, etc.” (Maintenance of control)

We say maitenance of control, they say illusion of control. Go figure.:cheer:

 

[Yuriy777]

We say maitenance of control, they say illusion of control. Go figure.:cheer:

Who do they think they are?!