When a girl suddently drops all contact...

[cfajason]

what do u guys do?

I have this lady friends who i usualy hang out with once or twice a week....she invites me over i invite her....etc but all the sudden she droped all contact with me....doesnt answere the phone or my sms....i only phoned her once and sent her sms....after that i stopped....thinking she would return them after a couple of days...but now it has gone 2 weeks and still havent heard **** from her.....should i call her one last time?Im not looking for sex or relationship with this girl...just a friendship.

 

[Levrone]

If its just a friend, why not call her and ask her gently why she acts so weird.
Thats what I would do if a friend (male or female doesn't matter) would do that.

 

[Abbott]

It means that she doesn't want you in her life, and she's too damn scared to tell it to your face.

There was a fellow I used to go and "hang out" with on some weekends, but over a month ago he stopped answering my phone calls. Perhaps I freaked him out, or just didn't like something I did. It doesn't matter.

I don't have time to deal with people who won't respect my time.

So I basically figured "fvck him."

I haven't heard from him for quite some time now, so apparently I was right to figure that he didn't wish to see me anymore.

If someone does this to you there's nothing you can do except roll with the punches and move on. They might call back later, but I wouldn't count on it. Meet other people, and get over it.

And don't listen to Levrone. You said it yourself that she will not answer your phone calls, so calling her again would be useless. You already called once. That's enough.


Ben

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by Abbott
It means that she doesn't want you in her life, and she's too damn scared to tell it to your face.

There was a fellow I used to go and "hang out" with on some weekends, but over a month ago he stopped answering my phone calls. Perhaps I freaked him out, or just didn't like something I did. It doesn't matter.

I don't have time to deal with people who won't respect my time.

This is exactly how I see it too. Nobody is worth chasing after and if there's a reasonable excuse for not responding to you, she will get back to you and explain.

From the opposite perspective, I sometimes go for weeks without speaking to some of my closest friends - I just get distracted by other things. Nothing personal, although I don't appreciate them hounding me when I have things on my mind.

 

[cfajason]

I called her before i saw that u guys had posted on my thread....anyways she picked it up....she was at work....will talk to her later tonight.

 

[Levrone]

Originally posted by Abbott
It means that she doesn't want you in her life, and she's too damn scared to tell it to your face.

There was a fellow I used to go and "hang out" with on some weekends, but over a month ago he stopped answering my phone calls. Perhaps I freaked him out, or just didn't like something I did. It doesn't matter.

I don't have time to deal with people who won't respect my time.

So I basically figured "fvck him."

I haven't heard from him for quite some time now, so apparently I was right to figure that he didn't wish to see me anymore.

If someone does this to you there's nothing you can do except roll with the punches and move on. They might call back later, but I wouldn't count on it. Meet other people, and get over it.

And don't listen to Levrone. You said it yourself that she will not answer your phone calls, so calling her again would be useless. You already called once. That's enough.


Ben

He did the same thing as I posted, and that was the right thing. What you posted is bull****. If someone doesn't let hear from him/her anymore there can be a reason for it. Try to figure out the reason by asking it. When you have the reason you can always do what you say, but there can always be another reason for a behaviour like that.

So don't drop contact too easy is my advice

 

[cfajason]

I talked to her again.....she has been busy working and studing.....im starting to think that she dropped interest after i didnt **** the last time we met.....she invited me over to her house at 1 clock at night........i was stupid enough to not make a move on her since i saw her as a "friend"....sometimes i can be such an AFC


Anyways how do i ask her if that is the real reason???Should i be direct?

 

[Legend]

you must be from norway....

i would call her up and call her out on everything thats on your mind. Why are you doing this to yourself my friend? By finding the reason why shes not talking to you will allow you to move on. Then by all means please contact her asap and figure this out.

Stop putting yourself through this pain, some girls are just weird, i dont understand there behavior.

 

[cfajason]

Yes i am from Norway......And yes i want to know what went wrong so that i can learn from my mistakes........but some women are real *****es!!!!

 

[TesuqueRed]

Originally posted by cfajason
I talked to her again.....she has been busy working and studing.....im starting to think that she dropped interest after i didnt **** the last time we met.....she invited me over to her house at 1 clock at night........i was stupid enough to not make a move on her since i saw her as a "friend"....sometimes i can be such an AFC
Anyways how do i ask her if that is the real reason???Should i be direct?

That's probably it. No reason to ask. At some point you'll realize your intuition or your assessment is pretty good and to go with it. If you have to use a scientific method everytime for confirming what you suspect, you won't get anywhere fast.

But then again (not sure how this sounds in norwegian) but you fvcked the dvck on this one, and if you don't mind looking pathetic, go ahead and ask since you have nothing to lose. She may or may not answer straight on it. I'd bet she won't give you a straight answer since few girls will admit to offering herself up as bootycall - essentially admitting she's a slut -- or that she failed at seducing a guy. You asking will strike her as weird and she'll spread the word among your social circle.

So maybe you do have something to lose in asking. Hadn't thought about that.

 

[cfajason]

**** u are right....i wont ask the *****....im just gonna forget about her...if she calls fine...i wont call anymore.Thanks bro!