YoungSir4sho said:
1st let me say that I made a lot of mistakes with this girl so far so u don't have to remind me. 2nd I just started talking to her 1 day ago from plentyoffish.com. Also we haven't met yet, I asked her out over the phone saying does she want to be my girl.
So you've asked this girl to be your "girl",which I take it to mean your girlfriend. Umm...isn't that a bit premature? I mean not only have you two not had a date yet,you haven't even met each other.
I actually agree with her about the "commiting" thing. You're trying to get her to commit to you,and you two have never even touched each other.
You need to pump your brakes dude. Slow down a bit. You have no idea of what kind of message this is sending to the woman about you.
YoungSir4sho said:
She said that she is feeling me a lot but that she wants to get to know me better before she commits into a relationship. She said that we are just talking now but exclusively. So basically she can't talk to other guys n vice versa. Once she gets to know me better then we can get into a relationship.
This is both good and bad. Good,in that she has enough sense not to rush into things.
Bad,that in seems like she's in control of things. You shouldn't allow a woman to lead or be in control. If you do,sooner or later,she'll run things right off into the ditch. Not on purpose,but she'll still do it.
YoungSir4sho said:
Listen I know what u all gonna say that I went into it too quickly. But she has a great personality and actually looks real good.
"She has a great personality and actually looks real good". Yeah,so? So what if she's nice and attractive? What woman isn't when you first meet her? Are you saying that you decide how fast or slow to take things based on a woman's appearance? If she's hot,you move quickly,but if she's just ok looking,then you'll take your time?
What kind of sense does that make?
YoungSir4sho said:
I kept pursuin her sayin that she should give us a chance but she wouldn't accept being my girl right now n to wait it out.
This girl is right,but what I'd like to know is what do you mean by "give
us a chance? What "us"? There's no "us",there's you and there's her. Could you two at least
meet first before you call yourselves an "us"? You don't have to go on 4 or 5 dates first,just for once see each other in person,in the flesh,then you can say "us".
Surely that's not too much to ask.
YoungSir4sho said:
She will come to my crib next week n spend the night for a few days.
So she's going to "spend the night" for "a couple of days". Umm...ok. Never heard that before.
I think this is a mistake. So the first meeting you two will have will be her spending the night over your place. That should be interesting. And what if she doesn't like you,then what? So you guys are just going to bypass having a date,and go straight to her staying at your place a couple of days.
Say it ain't so. You're going to have some stranger from the internet come and stay at your house for a few days.
Wow.
My guess is she'll probably change her mind before the time for this comes to pass,but if not and she does show up at your place,hide your wallet.
YoungSir4sho said:
So how do I fix all of this??
Well for one,CANCEL this plan of herstaying at your house for a few days,and instead just have a normal date. Go out somewhere and do something fun together.
YoungSir4sho said:
Don't mention bout us getting into a relationship?
Yes. Don't even mention the word "relationship".
YoungSir4sho said:
Playin' hard to get? YOU HAVEN'T EVEN MET EACH OTHER YET. She's not playin' hard to get,she being cautious.
Remember,you're still just a guy over the internet.
YoungSir4sho said:
We've been talkinon the phone non stop n textin each other non stop..
Well,if you've only known her a day,I guess this isn't too bad,however,you might want to slow down a bit on callin' and textin' everyday. That's a good way to fall into the friendzone...especially since you two haven't even had a date yet.
Boy,you don't waste any time,do you? Haven't even know this girl 2 days,and you're already pressuring her into a relationship.
You know this makes you look bad,don't you? You're acting like a man who's been in the desert for 3 days with nothing to drink. Then when you finally stumble upon some water,you're divin' in headfirst like a madman.
It's like you haven't had a date in over 6 months and the first girl who says yes to you,you've already got the wedding plans made,and you two have never even seen (in person) each other.
You need to slow down. Otherwise,you might scare her off.
