When a girl says she's asexual

[FlexpertHamilton]

I do think there may be a small minority of people who may be genuinely asexual (less than 1%) but I bet the most women who claim to be asexual is due to sexual abuse or long term SSRI use.

 

[devilkingx2]

I was chatting with a girl online while playing chess. She said she was asexual. I don't believe her.

My question is: When a girl says she's asexual, is she lying?

There's almost guaranteed to be exceptions to the rule if you get her to open up about her history.

But there's plenty of women out there who aren't very sexual, it's not impossible to believe.

Most importantly, if she's telling you she's not into sex, she's either rejecting you or trying to set you up for beta bux or the friendzone.

 

[Hal9000]

Women these days are desperate to be different. Whether that's claiming to be a lesbian, bi, asexual, poly, non monogamous, an empath or God knows what else. They are like children.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Women these days are desperate to be different. Whether that's claiming to be a lesbian, bi, asexual, poly, non monogamous, an empath or God knows what else. They are like children.

Yeah, anyone who claims to be pansexual or queer, for example, is basically saying "please look at me, I'm special". The terms themselves are meaningless.

 

[Kotaix]

Asexual is a real thing. I know both men and women who are this (only one of each gender), but it's super rare for it to be legit and not just some excuse or identity fad.

 

[The Duke]

Just because you try to be something doesn't mean you are. So many confused people just trying to feel "special" these days. So they come up with some new definition and all the woke lefty's wave the flag for them and try and pass laws so they feel included.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Imagine Chad Thunderc0ck hitting on this girl and she´s like "Nah, thanks. Im asexual"

Whatever. Low interest. Next her.

 

[mbc0029]

Go meet women in the real world. It's weird AF to meet women playing chess online as a 32 year old man. It actually doesn't matter whether or not she's telling the truth or lying.

I was just playing chess. She just so happened to have lady parts lol

 

[mbc0029]

My mantra is that if people tell you who they are, believe them, until their actions prove otherwise.

BTW I love chess, at one time I held the rank of Master, but that was 20 years ago and I no longer actively compete... I only play now for fun, but when I was in Yugoslavia (mid-90s) I participated in a UN tournament and won against hundreds of plays from a couple dozen different countries. I used to be VERY good. I can say with absolute certainly that I have never engaged in a conversation with another player when I was playing a serious game, and the only time I actually talked to the other player was when I was actively teaching someone on how to get better. Certainly sexual orientation never came up as a topic. If someone had tried to do this with me, I would chalk it up to an attempt by the other player to distract me and likely never would have even noticed it. When you get into the zone, you are so busy in beginning of the game to get the right sequence down, and understanding where if your opponent broke sequence, how that might give you an advantage in the end game... and when you get to the end game... you are too busy thinking so far ahead you do not have any room for anything that would distract you.

The moral of this story is... never let anything anyone 'says' distract from your purpose.

That's pretty cool. I don't think I've ever met someone who actively competed in chess.

Do you ever play online?

 

[Barrister]

Woman: "Sorry, I don't want to have sex. I am asexual."

Translation: "Sorry, I don't want to have sex with YOU."

 

[Bokanovsky]

asexual = chadsexual

Not necessarily. I truly belie that a lot women these days don't have much interest in sex. There are all sorts of reasons for that, including "the pill".

 

[mbc0029]

My max rating was 2000, now I fell back to 1800, still beating 2300 rated players every now and then. Never got lessons tho. Any advice?


Again, i wonder how this particular thing came up in a conversation during a chess match. A real bummer, thinking you "gamed" an "intellectual " woman only to hear she "doesn't have a p00sy" haha.

It started off with me trying to distract her and talk a little ****. I mentioned something about her being a "witch" during the opening part of the game. That's when she told me she was "Asexual". I beat her, but that was the first time I ever heard someone say they were asexual.

 

[mbc0029]

There's almost guaranteed to be exceptions to the rule if you get her to open up about her history.

But there's plenty of women out there who aren't very sexual, it's not impossible to believe.

Most importantly, if she's telling you she's not into sex, she's either rejecting you or trying to set you up for beta bux or the friendzone.

I think you're right. Whatever it is, she doesn't have desire for me.

 

[manfrombelow]

99% of everything that is self-proclaimed by a woman about herself is pure BULLSH!T by default. They mean nothing, thus you shouldn't be bothered to try to figure out what they mean.

This could rise to even 100% if it's their online profiles. Trust me, 100% of them are bullsh!t. Any girl on Tinder that claims she's "asexual" would svck Chad's thunderc0ck in a heartbeat.

 

[Luni]

Woman: "Sorry, I don't want to have sex. I am asexual."

Translation: "Sorry, I don't want to have sex with YOU."

this take never gets old. f'n love it

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I have had sex with more lesbians than straight women tbh. They will go for the dvck if you are good at luring them.



Ahhhh, that was easy

Most lesbians will do a guy. However. Lots of lesbians arr unattractive.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

My understanding of ‘Asexual’’ is that they are willing to have sex only with people they feel a strong bond with. If you look up ‘asexual’. the definition admits they have sex. As far as I’m concerned. Unless she’s a total knock out. Best move on. Too much work.

 

[mbc0029]

Most lesbians will do a guy. However. Lots of lesbians arr unattractive.

My understanding of ‘Asexual’’ is that they are willing to have sex only with people they feel a strong bond with. If you look up ‘asexual’. the definition admits they have sex. As far as I’m concerned. Unless she’s a total knock out. Best move on. Too much work.

I get the feeling it would be transactional at best (beta) in either scenario (Asexual or Lesbian). That's my gut feeling.

My younger brother tried having a relationship with a lesbian a few years ago. It was weird in every way. Not to mention she held the frame. Seems pretty obvious in hindsight. She was unattractive to say the least.

 

[RangerMIke]

My max rating was 2000, now I fell back to 1800, still beating 2300 rated players every now and then. Never got lessons tho. Any advice?

Yes. First you have to figure out what kind of player you are there are 5 basic types... Aggressive (I usually tear these to pieces), Positional (Ones I have a hard time with), Tactical (another type I can have a hard time with if we are in a sequence I am not familiar with), Endgame Specialist (In my better days could handle these well), Hybrid Tactical/Positional (Hardest to master). Once you figure this out, study the most common openings to your style of play.

The most common are Positional and Tactical, positional is the easiest to master IMO, but I know a lot of players that think this is the hardest. It really all depends on how your brain works.... Everyone is different... when I was younger, I didn't have any trouble with the end-game strategy I could think very quickly WAY ahead and track really well all the variations I might see and what to do... this would freak out my competition, and I would win when they lost focus. To be a good end-game player you also have to have a better than average memory... since you really need to master as many opening sequences that you can. They would spend time figured their next move then BOOM I would make my move immediately.. which would cause them to think they made a bad move... when in reality it might have been a good move, but I had already anticipated it... they would slow down... think more, make a move then BOOM, I would do it again... a lot of chess at a high level of play is psychological... you want to mentally and emotionally exhaust a player. But as I am older, my cognitive ability has drastically diminished.

Study sequencing of the most common chess openings first, then modern flank openings, you can Goggle the top ten. I will almost exclusively use the Spanish Opening (I know... boring) and depending on what White does if I play 2nd, will go with a French Defense (Again... yeah I know... boring).... which pretty much makes me boring and typical. I play a conservative game and play to get to the end game, (I am considered an 'End-game Specialist) which is where in my better days would win a lot more than lose. Especially when I played White.... against vey good players, I always tried to play to a draw with Black.

Now a days there are a lot of excellent websites focused on Chess, there are a lot more really good players around then when I was at my peak in the mid-90s to early 2000s. With the quality of competition now, I seriously doubt I would be as good now, even if I was at my peak. The best chess used to be played in Russia, now I have to say it's India and China. A decent website to start is www.expert-chess-strategies.com. They have some excellent videos that do a great job of analyzing opening moves, and they take the time to to show you would would happen with many possible moves.

Play, play, play... get as much practice as you can. Live tournaments are the best, mostly because you get to spend time with other players and can learn from them by observation. Online tournaments are good too, but IMO they aren't as much fun... but do these as well to get practice. One nice thing about on-line games is that your moves are recorded, so you can go back and look at where you may have gone wrong, or where you just got lucky.

Be patient... and do not get frustrated when things go wrong... have fun and learn from your errors. Always remember the higher up you climb in ability and competition, the more likely your games will end in a draw.

BTW 2000 rating is pretty good, that used to be considered Expert level, and depending on your age and how long you've been play could be outstanding. In my better days I had a Senior master Rating for a few years, but could never get over 2500 to be considered a GM. I have beaten GMs in the past, but they usually took me out in tournaments.