"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When a girl says "I've been so busy"

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This is a followup on a thread I made a few weeks ago..

I met this hot @$$ girl from the internet at the mall a while back. She was super shy and flustered when we met, as she usually is when she meets someone new. I was very attracted to this girl, and I've been wanting to see her again. Both of us have very busy schedules, but I can make time to see her now in the holidays. Back then she liked a guy in school, but apparently he had a g/f already so she had to give up on him..

This girl is so shy that even when we hadn't met in person, she still didn't talk much on the phone. I've told her that we're going to play 1 on 1 (she loves basketball) and that she owes me coffee from a bet we made a while ago (she said the Yankees were gonna win it all, I bet on Boston).

She comes online once in a while to say "man I have no life" because she works every single day, and also goes to school in the week (she's a senior in high school, i'm a sophomore in college).

One of the things I've learned from the DJ Bible is to always look at a girl's actions, not her words. I've told myself that I think it'd be better to give up on her if she doesn't come around by the New Year. I'm also meeting other girls in the process, so i'm not JUST focusing on her.

How should I proceed? Advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not sure what your question is... but essentially women that are interested in you make time for you - period.

The simple way to figure this out is call her and ask her out - if she says she is too busy that time you suggest and makes no counter-offer then thats pretty much your answer.

Don't be rude just bump her down the list as you are just going to be spinning your wheels anyway.
 
Desdinova

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Doesn't sound like you're going anything wrong, so give her the benefit of the doubt. Try to set up a date with her. If she says, "I'm busy" but tries to suggest another day, it's all good. If she leaves you guessing when she's going to be available, ditch her.
 
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