The_Reaper
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When she turns it around on you...so to speak.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
When a girl playfully calls you a dumbass, how do you react?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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you say...im not as big as one as you are....then you turn and smile...
Jazzman19
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With anything like this, if it is said in a playful manner, I have always followed with "Yes, yes I am. Don't worry, you will grow to like it." Then a smirk. Always seems to get a laugh...
Sir Shinra
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"When a girl playfully calls you a dumbass, how do you react? "
Don't.
This may sound like a smartass answer to a rhetorical question, but you don't have to react to everything she says. By doing so (being reactive), you're letting her control the frame. It took me a while to learn this.
Don't feel the need to analyze every little thing she does and make a witty comeback to it. Just hang back a bit and smile. You can have her qualify herself later.
Don't.
This may sound like a smartass answer to a rhetorical question, but you don't have to react to everything she says. By doing so (being reactive), you're letting her control the frame. It took me a while to learn this.
Don't feel the need to analyze every little thing she does and make a witty comeback to it. Just hang back a bit and smile. You can have her qualify herself later.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
A+ Nailed it.Sir Shinra said:"When a girl playfully calls you a dumbass, how do you react? "
Don't.
This may sound like a smartass answer to a rhetorical question, but you don't have to react to everything she says. By doing so (being reactive), you're letting her control the frame. It took me a while to learn this.
Don't feel the need to analyze every little thing she does and make a witty comeback to it. Just hang back a bit and smile. You can have her qualify herself later.
strong like bull
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amen."When a girl playfully calls you a dumbass, how do you react? "
Don't.
This may sound like a smartass answer to a rhetorical question, but you don't have to react to everything she says. By doing so (being reactive), you're letting her control the frame. It took me a while to learn this.
Don't feel the need to analyze every little thing she does and make a witty comeback to it. Just hang back a bit and smile. You can have her qualify herself later.
i used to actually feel a little butt hurt when girls would try to get fiesty and tease with things like that. nowadays, its one of the things that gets a very minimal reaction to me. maybe a smug smile, or a pat on the head. come to think of it, over time ive gotten to the point where a lot of stupid girlie behavior (like whining about stupid things) i mostly just ignore or nod a bit.
the bottom line is that were expected to be confident and sure of ourselves... girls like to ****-test to see if we really are. as stated above, by reacting to her or actually taking offense, youre letting her control your frame (and emotions). by keeping your cool, youre solid as a rock and her bs splashes off like water.
-SLB