"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When a girl has been distant with you...

switch7

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.. and you turn the tables by going minimal contact, how long do you leave it til you start to agree to meet up/ make plans? How do you go about it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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RangerMIke

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When she reaches out to you. If she does not reach out to you then move on. It could be a call or a text message... the reason might seem innocuous, but assume she wants to see you and make a date.
 

Harry Wilmington

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What he said. And it depends on if this was a girl you were dating or not. If you were, expect a 2 to 6 month window before she hits you back; if you weren't, she may never do it 'cause she had no real emotional investment in you other than being a friend.
 
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