when a girl goes around (meaning no) when asked out, is it really a 'no'?

[the_wanderer]

as the title? I've always wondered about this, from a MALES perspective.

I find that when I ask out and I get this BS (I'm busy, let you know soon, I'm lesbian etc etc), I walk away quick.

What if the girl is playing hard to get? Do we pursue this?

I would rather ask for experience than fact or proof because reading body language signs is not very exact and offers heaps of leeway.

A case in point would be one of my exes. I actually pursued her, she was giving mixed signals, but I got her. However she made it really hard.

Guys?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I swear, why does every new post look like a trolling call? If you are serious, then use a lot of common sense.

If you had to sell something, would you like to cold call people on the yellow pages, bug them until you change their mind, or would you focus on people who call YOU, and are showing signs of interest?

There will be some, from the cold calling prospects, who might end up buying, but why bother?

If she says no, I'm a lesbian, etc. she is not interested. She is giving you a chance to escape with your dignity in tact.

 

[Dante420]

as the title? I've always wondered about this, from a MALES perspective.

I find that when I ask out and I get this BS (I'm busy, let you know soon, I'm lesbian etc etc), I walk away quick.

What if the girl is playing hard to get? Do we pursue this?

I would rather ask for experience than fact or proof because reading body language signs is not very exact and offers heaps of leeway.

A case in point would be one of my exes. I actually pursued her, she was giving mixed signals, but I got her. However she made it really hard.

Guys?

No. You let it go

 

[the_wanderer]

I swear, why does every new post look like a trolling call? If you are serious, then use a lot of common sense.

If you had to sell something, would you like to cold call people on the yellow pages, bug them until you change their mind, or would you focus on people who call YOU, and are showing signs of interest?

There will be some, from the cold calling prospects, who might end up buying, but why bother?

If she says no, I'm a lesbian, etc. she is not interested. She is giving you a chance to escape with your dignity in tact.

mate I was being serious. I understand your a veteran but don't call me out as a troll. Cold calling people is different from relationships.

I'm surprised you've never heard of confident persistence.