AlphaGhost
Don Juan
Just something I was thinking about on the train this morning...
I'm a pretty chill, easy going person, but when things are really bothering me I can be really outspoken, no matter how much I try to hold it, it will be said eventually. I can't hide how I feel so its either say it or deal with me being all cranky.
What Im finding with myself and a couple of other people is when ever you bring a concern to a women, and she doesn't fully agree with it they throw out "Gosh your so sensative"
I think when ever a man hears that their auto reaction is to go into defense mode and try to justify their position which then makes them appear as if they are whining, OR they allow the women to brain fluck them by calling them sensative so they just stop bringing concerns up which leads to them becoming AFCs or just a shell of a man that allows his women to call all the shots.
Now on the flip side, when a women brings up a concern we MUST be all ears and listen and talk about it blah blah blah you get the point
I've been on both sides and now its really clear why women do that. They do it cause they KNOW we will be bothered by being called that.. Its not sensative to let someone your in a relationship with know about something thats bothering you. Now if your bringing up little **** every other day then maybe you are sensative or maybe you should be with someone who you mesh with better.
The guy who bottles it all up thinking he is a beyotch for bring up something that is bothering him up, really becomes his women's beyotch, and she knows that.
How I have been and I'd like you guys opinion on this as well is, I say whats on my mind one time, looking her dead in the face and if she throws out your so sensative, give her one good look that basically says "try me" without actually saying it lol and just continue talking about something else, or just walk out the room.
Did this with my lady cause I came home and dishes were in the sink and the chick was home all day... I was fumming, but I didnt lose my cool. Went to her and said
"You couldnt clean the dishes today? you where home all day..." to which she responded
"I'll do them eventually! its not even that many, your so sensative!"
Gave her a look and turned away, didnt say a thing. and what do you know she got off her ass and cleaned the dishes, and since that day the sink has been empty everytime I come home. :cheer:
I wanted to go off on her and call her all sorts of Bs and Cs and Fs and Ws lol, but that would mean she won cause she got a reaction out of me. I'm a man and I'm in complete control over my emotions. Dont allow them to brain fluck you!!!!
I'm a pretty chill, easy going person, but when things are really bothering me I can be really outspoken, no matter how much I try to hold it, it will be said eventually. I can't hide how I feel so its either say it or deal with me being all cranky.
What Im finding with myself and a couple of other people is when ever you bring a concern to a women, and she doesn't fully agree with it they throw out "Gosh your so sensative"
I think when ever a man hears that their auto reaction is to go into defense mode and try to justify their position which then makes them appear as if they are whining, OR they allow the women to brain fluck them by calling them sensative so they just stop bringing concerns up which leads to them becoming AFCs or just a shell of a man that allows his women to call all the shots.
Now on the flip side, when a women brings up a concern we MUST be all ears and listen and talk about it blah blah blah you get the point
I've been on both sides and now its really clear why women do that. They do it cause they KNOW we will be bothered by being called that.. Its not sensative to let someone your in a relationship with know about something thats bothering you. Now if your bringing up little **** every other day then maybe you are sensative or maybe you should be with someone who you mesh with better.
The guy who bottles it all up thinking he is a beyotch for bring up something that is bothering him up, really becomes his women's beyotch, and she knows that.
How I have been and I'd like you guys opinion on this as well is, I say whats on my mind one time, looking her dead in the face and if she throws out your so sensative, give her one good look that basically says "try me" without actually saying it lol and just continue talking about something else, or just walk out the room.
Did this with my lady cause I came home and dishes were in the sink and the chick was home all day... I was fumming, but I didnt lose my cool. Went to her and said
"You couldnt clean the dishes today? you where home all day..." to which she responded
"I'll do them eventually! its not even that many, your so sensative!"
Gave her a look and turned away, didnt say a thing. and what do you know she got off her ass and cleaned the dishes, and since that day the sink has been empty everytime I come home. :cheer:
I wanted to go off on her and call her all sorts of Bs and Cs and Fs and Ws lol, but that would mean she won cause she got a reaction out of me. I'm a man and I'm in complete control over my emotions. Dont allow them to brain fluck you!!!!