When a buddy ****blocks you

[Gunner26]

So I posted about a situation I am in with a HB7 recently here

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=209852 (No replies haha)

Anyway we went out that night and during pre-drinks she was sitting nice and close to me, kept bringing up sex between us and squeezing my arm and leg. Obviously I flirted heavily and reciprocated the touching, at one point she kissed me on the cheek and I told her to stop, she asked why and I replied that'd we'd be kissing for real later

We leave pre's and go to the club, it's completely dead, but that's what we expected. We get some drinks in and knock them back while the place fills up. I'm chilling with my boys and dancing a bit with the girls. Some other guys that we know turn up, I have a quick catch up as they come over to join us and go back to dancing with the girls.

Soon it's me and two of my mates dancing just us, having a good time and the HB7 comes over and starts dancing with me. My two mates get the hint and slowly move away leaving just the two of us, we get close, grind a bit and I lean in for the kiss. I get a peck but no more. Couple more minutes of just us two dancing and then we go back to the group.

Immediately one of my friends from the other group moves in and tries to get with her. Probably within a minute of us rejoining the group, and he's obviously just seen me and her dancing alone together. I'm not worried, just think it's a bit of a **** move.

For the rest of the night, anytime she comes over to dance with me, or I with her, he gets in the way/tries to pull her away/distract her. We do kiss again, but no make-out.

In the end I get tired of him being a **** and go do my own thing, then eventually leave with my housemates.

I learnt yesterday that this guy wanted to shag HB7, but seeing as though she is apparently hooking up with his best mate I thought he'd leave it be. Yea she is hooking up with another guy and I do know him, but it's not serious, and I'm not too fussed, mainly because although I think she's a cool girl, I really just want to **** her, and I think it's there.

So what should I do?

Do I talk to my mate and tell him to back off, do I ignore it and just play the game against him or do I leave it and move onto the next one?


Thoughts would be appreciated this time round please men haha.

Gunner

 

[Dhoulmagus]

She's a slut. If she really wanted you than she would have went home with you regardless

 

[Gunner26]

No doubt she isn't exactly cautious around penis.

However I wouldn't say it was a matter of her going home with me regardless. As I said above, in the end I just got a little ticked off with my friend constantly getting in between us so eventually just left her and chilled with my housemates away from them, she wasn't that much of a priority that I was going to let it ruin my night, best to just leave and come back another night. Besides I'm not attached to this girl. Although posting here about her obviously means I care a bit it's more that I want to know how to deal with a friend who ****blocks me and how to deal with that.

Gunner

 

[Dhoulmagus]

He wasnt **** blocking you because there was no **** to be blocked. If you were literally ****** her and he barged in and refused to leave than that's **** blocking.

 

[Gunner26]

So he wasn't literally knocking my **** away from her. Doesn't mean he wasn't preventing me from getting closer to that outcome.

Thanks for your wise words and analysis, but it isn't really helpful, outside of helping me to realise that a bit of hyperbole is lost on some people.

Gunner

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Let me put this in your point of view. If there was this 9 down the street that wanted to bang you, but your parents went out of their way to prevent you from meeting this girl, would you say **** it? Hell no, you would say **** your parents and go bang the 9. Think about it for the girl, if she really wanted to **** you than she would have regardless if the task force was in her way. Plus, don't ever trust most straight men around women. Most straight men will instantly turn in to a drooling idiot ready to screw over anybody when around women.

 

[Gunner26]

That's a fair point and makes a lot more sense than your last post.

I've probably overcomplicated things in my own head, thanks for clearing it up a bit.

And I understand perfectly about men being the worst people to trust, however as I consider this guy a friend, I still think it's a **** move on his part.

Gunner

 

[Mr Wright]

The general problem with uni is that most guys only ever seem to hook up with girls in their social circle or extended social circle. This inevitably leads to overlap and from what I know for a fact is that people bang on the sly and snake each other. Not too long ago a mate of mine slept with another friends sort of fvck buddy. Awkward.

I'd talk to him, establish boundaries, if he starts breaking them again tell him the gloves are coming off. As for the girl, isolate her, aggressively go for the make out, if she goes for the peck, hold her in close and keep kissing her. Then act like you're hungry and want some food, lead her out and dont tell her where you're going but go back to your house. Its a simple formula which works.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Oh yall are from the UK. I feel really bad for you all now.

 

[Mr Wright]

Oh yall are from the UK. I feel really bad for you all now.

Why London's amazing, it has girls from all over the world visiting all year round.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Cause British women act like American women and are uglier too. Plus, I'm not too fond of the Uk either. No thanks jeff

 

[Gunner26]

Mr Wright as always some great advice. I'm not too worried about the situation being awkward, in my friendship group and extended circle everyone gets with eachother. I mean everyone, it's ridiculous, but never ends up being awkward.

I'll have words with my mate about it, but to be honest I don't think it'll make much of a difference, he's a bit of a dog when it comes to women he wants, however in this instance I'm confident I can come out on top.

In regards to progressing further with her I think that your advice is spot on, and was what I was thinking of doing next time I see her out. I was a little bit too timid the other night, mainly because I wasn't entirely sure it was there, now I have no doubt that she's game so it's time to step it up a notch.

Thanks

Gunner