"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When 2 "Alphas" claim their space??

Ghengis Kahn

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I was poking around Mystery's site and I noticed he and some of his co-instructors have a certain way of sitting, basically taking up a lot of space to establish dominance.

So what does one do when you're sitting right next to someone who is "assuming the pose" and is spread out to claim his space? Let's say you end up in a car together...do you just spread your legs and arms out also and let them touch the other guy (ugghhh), or do you reel yourself in so you're not touching?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tom Juan

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Say "Please go away, you're invading my personal space and I would appreciate it if you didn't". There you have it, straight-forward and polite. No sneaky tricks or anything.
 

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-Put your left hand on the right side of his chin and your right hand at the top left part of his head.

-With as much force as you can muster pull your left hand back towards you and push the right hand away from you.

-Repeat till you hear a snap

-Open the car door and kick him out

-close the door and tell the driver to proceed as planed
 

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AngelusPUA said:
-Put your left hand on the right side of his chin and your right hand at the top left part of his head.

-With as much force as you can muster pull your left hand back towards you and push the right hand away from you.

-Repeat till you hear a snap

-Open the car door and kick him out

-close the door and tell the driver to proceed as planed
See? Now that's just a stupid post. This is the reason why alot of people are complaining about and leaving this site. Nobody gives any good advice anymore. It would better the site if people would just refrain from making comments like this.
 

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Tom Juan said:
Say "Please go away, you're invading my personal space and I would appreciate it if you didn't". There you have it, straight-forward and polite. No sneaky tricks or anything.
It's not always that easy. It might be an aquaintance with whom you must keep the peace with.

For example, I have a friend who is in my band, and he's used to being the top dog, and he feels the pain when I'm around because I become top dog.

But we might be sitting somewhere together and he will tend to spread out. I can't really challenge him directly as it will be seens a petty.

The other challenge is when someone is already sitting and you come along and must sit down next to him. He's already claimed his space, and I don't want to sit there all scrunched up like I always used to back in the day.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You seriously sit there and think about how "alpha" your sitting compared to him? lol :crackup:

Just say "hey man , I need some room" like normal people do.
 

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Tom Juan said:
See? Now that's just a stupid post. This is the reason why alot of people are complaining about and leaving this site. Nobody gives any good advice anymore. It would better the site if people would just refrain from making comments like this.
Take a look at 99% of my post, most of the time I do give advice. I just dislike it when people ask stupid questions that are asked every single week on here.

Things that are just common sense, if you are the alpha-male (the dominant one) and another guy tries to enter into you space you don't let him. If he does then you are no longer the Alpha in that situation because he has dominance over you.

So if you have the balls you dominate him by inflicting onto his personal space, if you don’t you take your place as the beta.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ghengis Kahn:
Depends on the situation. If you HAVE TO show dominance that you must invade their space enought that the girls notices, but in a relaxed way, just basically let the guy know you are "showing off" thourgh body language, as soon as he sees/feels what you are doing he will recognize and should step to the side if he has RESPECT for you.

If it is not necessary this may become uncomfortable for both of you and make you look overly aggressive for a normal social situaiton.




Angel & Tom Juan: how many posts you gonna put up tongiht, hitting multiple replies in multiple threads? Shouldnt squabbles be handled via pm?? lol Think a little positive, we are all together...........
 

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i think your all ****ed with this alpha beta thing, its fvcking stupid, lifes not like that, only in you retarded boy world is it like that...
 

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Look at him with a disgusted expression, and say "Dude, are you European or just gay? Stop touching me."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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