"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What's Your Therapy?

Señor Fingers

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When you can't take it anymore and life seems to be dragging you down, what do you do to get out of that funk?

For me nothing works better than

• Listening to and making music
• Dancing (even if its in my undies)
• Bike ride
• Mini-vacation / adventure with my lady
• Night out with the fellas
• Playing with my cat

Any of these things instantly dissolve my worries.

How do you guys deal with the daily grind?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Those are good. I go play the piano to make myself feel better. Light drinking also helps.

my cat is kind of a b1tch, tho
 

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Fencing, nothing better than the moment when you only thinking about your blade and how to get pass theirs.
 

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Listening to music, although if you listen to the wrong stuff it makes it worse :p

Hangin' out with the fellas, always good for a laugh and a good time

Some exercise or dancing

And best of all I think, a good night sleep :)
 

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yeah, sleeping definitely helps. I tend to get depressed sometimes just because I'm tired.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I like to meditate in my self-made sensory deprivation float tank after a hard physical workout. It is a small, sound proof chamber containing a mixture of magnesium sulfate, water and is heated to skin temperature. You can't see anything, you can't hear anything, and after a while you can't feel anything because you are floating in a salt water solution that is indescernable from your own body.

The experiences I've had in the tank are too many to talk about here, but when you come back out of it you feel more aware and more alive than ever before. I highly recommend you all try one sometime. I love it.
 

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Aboleo I've read about them and really want to try one of them one day. They come highly reccomended in a lot of sports medicine books. How did you make it yourself?
 

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I play piano, or listen to music, or sleep.
 

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Basically, I built a large insulated wooden box, put rubber swimming pool lining inside of it, placed a water bed heater under that, and plumed in a water filter. You will also need about 800lbs of epsom salt and a really good temperature gauge with a digital readout in order to make it work properly.


http://www.borderbuy.com/float.htm
This guy has some pretty good basic plans that were very easy to follow... sorry these aren't free, however. And to be honest, the $20.00 price tag is a tad over priced for about 40 pages worth of information...:cuss:

Besides, I pretty much gave away his magic secret for making the damn thing work right here... a simple waterbed heater!
 

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My stuff:

1) get some sweets and read a good book ( I read every day before going to sleep)

2) meditate

3) go for a run and lift some weights

4) get drunk while watching old movies I love

It all depends on how bad I'm feeling, 4) is for the worst, suicidal feelings. I actually stayed that way for weeks at a time before I found this site.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Aboleo said:
I like to meditate in my self-made sensory deprivation float tank after a hard physical workout. It is a small, sound proof chamber containing a mixture of magnesium sulfate, water and is heated to skin temperature. You can't see anything, you can't hear anything, and after a while you can't feel anything because you are floating in a salt water solution that is indescernable from your own body.

The experiences I've had in the tank are too many to talk about here, but when you come back out of it you feel more aware and more alive than ever before. I highly recommend you all try one sometime. I love it.
I heard Joe Rogan has one of those...do you know how much those cost or how to make them?
 

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When you can't take it anymore and life seems to be dragging you down, what do you do to get out of that funk?
I quit acting like a pu$$y.
 

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:D
Ken785 said:
I heard Joe Rogan has one of those...do you know how much those cost or how to make them?

Yeah, I saw an interview on youtube where he was showing off his tank. You can buy them on ebay for about $3000.00. Mine cost less than $1000.00, but I kinda' spent a little more than I actually had to just making it look nice. I listed some info on how to make one above, but if you want more detailed info please PM me, I don't wanna take the thread too far off topic.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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These are great guys. I love Aboleo's idea of a DIY deprivation tank.
(You may want to start a new thread for that so you can help out people who want to do this)

I also forgot a couple of little things I do for a therapeutic shift

• Long hot shower with my essential oils (lavender is very relaxing)
• Smoke a fattie (very rare these days, but comes in handy)
• Help people out (focus on solving problems clears my head)
• Have sex (no more wacking for this old-timer)

ChrizZ said:
I quit acting like a pu$$y.
Yeah, but what exactly do you do to snap out of it? I know that when I'm at my lowest, just trying to change my mind is not enough.. I have to do something specific to change my energy and push me out of that rut

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This place...
I can see that. Aside from helping folks out and maybe clearing up your problems, SoSuave has what I like to call the Jerry Springer effect. You think that your life is messed up, and then you read some of these threads and realize how together your head really is. All that's missing are the transvestite midgets :p
 

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Fortunately I don't have many "down times" but when I feel the need to decompress I:

1. Go to my humidor and grab a Bolivar or Partagas black and pour a nice tall glass of Old Granddad or Whiskey River and sit out by the pool and watch the sun go down. Talk about serenity :D .

2. I write. I write either here or on my novel.

3. Sit and watch episodes of Family Guy with Mrs. K and Li'l K and laugh together.

4. Make out with whichever of my five dogs are in my lap. This should probably be number one.
 

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Señor Fingers said:
...I can see that. Aside from helping folks out and maybe clearing up your problems, SoSuave has what I like to call the Jerry Springer effect. You think that your life is messed up, and then you read some of these threads and realize how together your head really is. All that's missing are the transvestite midgets :p
Fingers! Fingers! Fingers!

Sorry, reminiscing about the days when you could easily confuse the Jerry Springer Show with WWF Wrestling...

I see this place as a pretty good cross section of how guys perceive the world and yes, it definitely looks better looking in from the outside. The best thing is that I believe that when guys get into a forum like this they are a bit more honest about their beliefs than when surrounded by their peers at a bar. Very interesting.
 

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For me its anything that I can get into the flow of.

Lifting weights
Cycling
Chilling with cool people
Writing lyrics
Programming
Photoshopping
Reading
Smoking up

And my top one - meditation.

The deprivation tank sounds like a cool idea. Need to try that one of these days.
 

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Lift heavy weights/run
Try to talk to beautiful women
Sportscenter
Listen to Tool
Talk to guys from my lair
Suround myself with postive people ONLY
Eat fruits and vegetables
Recite recent accomplishments
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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