What's your take on this IM Convo

[Kal0051]

I'm talking about a girl that I met a few weeks ago and who I thought was interested. We've gone out once since we met with a few of our friends and after that night her interest lvl seems to have dropped (not sure why though). She adds me to facebook last night. I accept (what the hell). Come back later, find her on, so here's the convo (not word for word, don't have the log saved) :

Me:
HB: lol hey what you up to?
Me: not much. u?
HB: bla bla bla
Me: what you doing on the wknd?
HB: not sure. no plans yet. u?
Me: same
Me: we should chill
*no answer for 15 mins*
Me: no answer? whatever
*right away*
HB: bla bla bla (something about wanting to go out with friends)
Me: *some ****y comment, can't remember*
Me: hit me up to chill, maybe I'll make time for you, lol
HB: lol, alright
Me: cool, night
Me: And I expect a call soon
HB: lol alright
HB: night

I really didn't give a **** while talking to her, though the no answering pissed me off (I think it shows in my comment to her). What's your take on this? And leave out any comments about me contacting her when I shouldn't of. I don't really expect much from her, but who knows.

 

[nek08]

she's being nice, and not interested imo

 

[playerone]

Hard to tell from a conversation but you definitely blew it when you tell her you're expecting a call.

And if she doesn't reply after you initiate to chill out together, don't say a word. Wait for the reply, which may never come, then act on it.

If she rejects your offer in any way, like in this case, saying that she wants to go out with her friends instead, just do a simple "Okay." Then stop talking to her that much. Most probably you did not make her feel comfortable enough to go out with you alone, and low interest level for sure.

Well, i guess you can tell when a girl just isn't interested. Move on. It would be pointless to continue and try to change her interest level. Wouldn't be worth the time.

 

[Mavrick]

Me: no answer? whatever

This conveyed all she needed to know about you. You should have asked and left it alone, but instead you tried to protect your ego with a dismissive come back. How can one be dismissive to someone that's already being dismissed? haha It's not possible. All it does is show that you are seeking a reaction from her. You want some kind of answer. You want your way.

Whine whine whine. I'm a big baby, and I lay on the floor and kick and scream to get what I want.​

How unattractive is that?

From now on, ask your question and leave it alone when she doesn't answer. If you become pushy, you're only shooting yourself in the foot. Leave it alone and try some other day. Like maybe in a week.

 

[ucmedv8]

She passively told you she would call you. If she doesn't, then you know she is not interested. Wait...patiently.

 

[NewAndImproved]

IMO, I don't think the convo was good. I used to be serious and formal when IMing. Now I rarely ask questions like "what's up?" etc... Take note of more interesting things like her status, a funny wall post and start w/that. When you feel you've been talking to her for long enough, say something like "i'm about to pass out...long day, but let's grab dinner sat." As for her not responding for 15 minutes, your response was bad. Convey that your time is valuable. I recently asked a girl out and she hesitated for 2 minutes. I merely said "you're taking too long...i'll call you about it" and logged off.