So, to start off im in college, and I dont live in the dorms, so Im somewhat at a disadvantage. I got this idea to just build rapport with the girl for a few days, get her interested whatever, and then once you have the green light of her being interested, hang out with her, get her to completely lust after you, and then proceed to hint to her that you want sex. Like, say you meet up with her, shes all giggly and what not, then ask her if shes busy at the moment, if she says no, you can say something like "good because we're gonna do something together," she'll be confused/get the hint/questioning/in agreement. And she'll be like "what did you have in mind," and you just say "that depends" while looking into her eyes. And it could just build from there. Eventually, youll get to the part where she leads you to her dorm room (VOLUNTARILY) and then she locks the door, and you two get it on. Hows that, you guys think this would work?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
whats your opinion on this pickup
- Thread starter Bilogomja
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mental masturbation!Originally posted by Bilogomja
So, to start off im in college, and I dont live in the dorms, so Im somewhat at a disadvantage. I got this idea to just build rapport with the girl for a few days, get her interested whatever, and then once you have the green light of her being interested, hang out with her, get her to completely lust after you, and then proceed to hint to her that you want sex. Like, say you meet up with her, shes all giggly and what not, then ask her if shes busy at the moment, if she says no, you can say something like "good because we're gonna do something together," she'll be confused/get the hint/questioning/in agreement. And she'll be like "what did you have in mind," and you just say "that depends" while looking into her eyes. And it could just build from there. Eventually, youll get to the part where she leads you to her dorm room (VOLUNTARILY) and then she locks the door, and you two get it on. Hows that, you guys think this would work?
Your missing so much vital stuff:
1. Why do you need to build rapport for several days? What if some big handsome stud comes up to her on day 2 and tells her she looks nice and he wants to get to know her? Who is she gonna be more attracted to, you or him?
2. How do you plan on getting her interested? This should be your focus rather than building rapport.
3. Why would she give you the green light if she's not interested?
4. Why should she hang out with you? What are you offering her?
5. Why should she lust after you? What do you have that she would want?
6. Hint to her you want sex? Pathetic! Why not show her you want sex?
You're forgetting the most important aspect. If she isn't attracted to you then your whole plan falls apart!
Why are you so afraid of letting her know you like her and want her?
-Razorjack
Maverick001
Senior Don Juan
Bilogomja,
The idea is not tell a girl that you've just met, "Hey babe, I'd like to shag you silly." Other DJ's may have differing views on this but I would opine that it's not going to work in most situations.
You're a sexual being and if you're comfortable with it, that comfort and confidence will be projected out to the rest of the world.
If the girl's interested in you she already knows that you're interested in having sex with her and vice versa. All you have to do is move things along. She's not going to reject your sexual advances, as long as she's attracted to you.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav
The idea is not tell a girl that you've just met, "Hey babe, I'd like to shag you silly." Other DJ's may have differing views on this but I would opine that it's not going to work in most situations.
You're a sexual being and if you're comfortable with it, that comfort and confidence will be projected out to the rest of the world.
If the girl's interested in you she already knows that you're interested in having sex with her and vice versa. All you have to do is move things along. She's not going to reject your sexual advances, as long as she's attracted to you.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav
This is a good plan in theory, but if things always went that smoothly then we'd all be banging new chicks every day.
I highly recommend you read a post of mine in the tips section awhile back:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=60342
I think that's exactly what you're looking for.
I highly recommend you read a post of mine in the tips section awhile back:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=60342
I think that's exactly what you're looking for.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.