What's your end goal in being a DJ?

[Johnny Alias]

I read many posts on So Suave and the main points I take away are to be a confident man that doesn't need the praise or validation of a woman. Being strong, not putting up with BS, dominating in life and the sack, and living up to your full potential as an Alpha.

I came here after experiencing the hellish nightmare of a cluster b relationship and realized I had become full AFC. I'm still shedding preconceived notions from my youth about always being a gentlemen, kissing women's asses, and devoting my heart and soul to one woman who's got red flags sticking out of every orifice in her body. You guys have helped me a great deal with this and I learn more every day. Thanks for all the comments... well, most of them. Heh.

While spinning plates, gymming it up, and pursuing my own dreams has been a huge benefit to my well being, soul, and getting over the QUEEN OF THE HARPIES, I am at a point where I'm beginning to wonder what my end goal as an aspiring DJ? I realize in the true zen sense that I should desire nothing, but I am 38 and my biological clock is ticking a bit. I do want a kid. Just one. I'm not greedy. I also don't have any preconceived notions that this has to be a result of marriage where I get papers handed to me in a matter of years saying its over, sell my house and move into a crappy apartment, and watch the woman that professed to love me run off with another man.

What's your end goal? Sure you're banging loads of chicks. It's fun, but sharing in a bona fide LTR, even one you know will end at some point is a great thing as well. I consider all I've learned on here to be a stepping stone to finding a woman that isn't batshvt crazy and wants a kid and would at the very least be a good mom when we go our separate ways.

Thank god we're men. I know I can have a kid late into life, but I want to be able to pick it up when it's born.

If things get at all serious with any woman I go out with I have to make sure she wants this as well. I bonded with my ex fiances kid and it SUCKED to have to say goodbye forever.

Just some random thoughts. Feel free to comment. For the record I'm going to be very picky with any chick I have to share custody with for the rest of my life. God knows I've read enough horror stories on here and elsewhere about EVIL women that destroy men after the breakup.

In the meantime, bangfest tonight with a barbie doll cougar, first date with a blonde my age with nice fake cans tomorrow, and then fvckfest with a pornstar hottie on saturday. It's a good life.

 

[JohnChops]

goals are never ending. once you're comfortable, you lose.

 

[Johnny Alias]

Being able to attract a super high quality woman for a heavily pre-nupped marriage with kids if I ever meet one. And to spin plates in the meantime.

That's what I'm talking about. And a super high quality woman has:

1) A JOB or at least a source of income (rich family)
2) Friend she treats well
3) Stable family dynamic
4) Nice cans
5) Not an alcoholic or junkie.
6) Likes kids and my dog.

A lot of people I know think that she should be free sexually for swinging in the future... but I'm on the fence about that. That seems like it would create its own set of problems.

 

[mikey2012]

That's what I'm talking about. And a super high quality woman has:

1) A JOB or at least a source of income (rich family)
2) Friend she treats well
3) Stable family dynamic
4) Nice cans
5) Not an alcoholic or junkie.
6) Likes kids and my dog.

A lot of people I know think that she should be free sexually for swinging in the future... but I'm on the fence about that. That seems like it would create its own set of problems.

Believe me, if she fulfills your criteria you will care about her more than she you. You will become beta and be afraid to walk then she will own you and eventually cheat on you.

Being a DJ is never ending. It's a mindset more than way of life.

 

[El Payaso]

What I think you should do is list the things you value in your life. Add to that list what you think makes you a good person, your goals, aspirations and accomplishments. Now make another list of goals, aspirations, accomplishments and personalities you value in a woman. If you're on the right track, you should see some similarities between your list and that of the woman you seek.

I think the problem for most marriages is when people wake up one day and find out that they don't even know the person they're sleeping next to. Find out that they're totally different. They don't have the same ideals, religion, goals, values etc. These differences might pop up early in the relationship but some men or women choose to ignore them and stay in the relationship for fear of loneliness.

Never be afraid to walk from a woman that doesn't fit your ideals. Just my thought but take some time and try it. It's similar to the list that you already made but you can expound on it.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Coming from being a shy guy who could never consistently get girls.... i want to reliably approach, build rapport, and sleep with girls that are beautiful. I want never to have to experience again the crushing feeling of a girl walking all over you and leaving you in the dust. Yes, it's egotistical, but i want my friends to look at me as a "ladykiller", a guy who looks like he can pick up any girl he wants. I want meaningful relationships with the most high quality girls available. I want a core confidence that isn't shake-able. I want to walk into a room and realize that i am a top tier guy, not just because i'm good with girls, but also because this attitude carries over to my body language, career, personal interactions, lifestyle, etc. I want men to respect me and women to love me.

 

[SmooveMooves]

There is no end goal, just being happy with your life will suffice. However I do recommend you have a kid soon. Nothings worse than a 7 year old kid with a 66 yr old pop.