What's wrong with this woman?

[Slash Dolo]

Had a quick date with a 9 last night. She's 23. Met her on Tinder a year ago, but never got around to going out with her. I have chatted with her through text occasionally over that time.

Finally decided to go for it and met her at a bar and we talked for 2 hours or so while drinking. We conversed very well and she wanted to come back to my place but I turned her down as I had to work. But I made a date for next Saturday. She confirmed. She then texted me after the date.

Her: I hope you get home safe. I am sorry if I was not what you expected. Have a good night

Me: I'm home. And you were exactly how I thought you'd be.

Her: Sooooo.... bad. Wednesday Adams and knife with a side of gin
Im ok with that

Me: that's a pretty accurate description; I'm just glad you're not socially awkward irl... a little vain, but a good chatter nevertheless

Her: A little vain huh. Ok

Me: I am too. It's okay.

Her: Ok

I didn't reply after that because I found the short responses odd. She deleted me off social media today, which is double odd as she wanted to go back to my place last night.

So I'm going to stay away here regardless. But what's wrong with her? Anyone have any insight so I can avoid chicks like this in the future? Thanks.

 

[Billtx49]

She wanted a bang, you didn't. She's disappointed. Probably feels somewhat rejected. Schedule a date when you have the whole night and morning breakfast open in the future.

 

[Slash Dolo]

I was just trying to bust her balls a bit with the vain comment. She kept referring to how "cute" she was during the date. But I guess I was a bit too harsh then? It still seems like weird behavior to me, I have a job and all and money comes first.

 

[Slash Dolo]

I gotcha. I sat up one for next Saturday and she agreed. Told her I'd be taking that weekend off. She COULD have just wanted to bang then and bounce and doesn't want to put forth the effort next week. Or wait that long.

 

[Slash Dolo]

Yep. Which is why I think it's odd behavior.

I've busted on women much harder. I've turned them down for work before. They usually are fine with it and roll with the punches. This girl is very attractive so she's used to the opposite I guess. Maybe it really offended her.

 

[Juanto]

Why on earth didnt you nail her on that night? That killed you with this girl

 

[Billtx49]

She kept referring to how "cute" she was during the date.

She was qualifying herself to you based on her looks. You passed on the sex, so she was butt hurt.
Always go for the bang.

 

[Slash Dolo]

I see. Thanks for the help guys. Should I actually reach out or should I just move on from here?

 

[Billtx49]

I see. Thanks for the help guys. Should I actually reach out or should I just move on from here?

Reach out, but give some cool down time first. If she's interested in you it's survivable.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Calling her vain wasn't a good move in the sense that it was true. You should have made a joke about it or something, like say something about yourself that she said word for word about herself, then out a the tongue emoji afterwards or smth.

 

[stovepipe]

That vain comment sealed the deal. I stay stupid chit like that sometimes and it backfires more times than that. Try and keep those smart a$$ comments to a minimum. Be aggressive and just go in for the kill mang.

Phuck b!tches, make money-Stovepipe

 

[Slash Dolo]

Thanks for the different perspective guys. From my point of view it just looked like she was a little nuts. I'll reach out around Thursday or Friday and see what happens.

 

[stovepipe]

Thanks for the different perspective guys. From my point of view it just looked like she was a little nuts. I'll reach out around Thursday or Friday and see what happens.

She probably was. Reach out, tell her "Adams and knife with a side of gin my place".

 

[sazc]

Really guys..."she wanted to bang and was hurt b/c you said no" ?!?! Way to go 'deep' with your assessment of the situation....

Let's take a second and put on our 'critical thinking skills hats', shall we?

She's got LOW SELF ESTEEM. She had that way before she met you. Her texts were looking for REASSURANCE and VALIDATION of your IL and attraction to her.

Yes, you could have played this better, given her the attention and reassurance that she wanted, and lined up a second date where she would have come to you with an open cvnt!

Here's the short end of the stick (no pun intended) with that scenario....she is who she is. She's already displayed that she needs reassurance and validation from people and she isnt afraid to fish for it and, if she doesn't get it she isn't afraid to cause D-R-A-M-A

Step back and re assess....is this really the kind of female you want in your life?

(this isnt directed at you OP, just a trend I notice)
You guys kill me... you date unbalanced females, ignoring the root cause of their fvcked up behavior, even tho they display it like blinging xmas lights immediately, then you come on here and talk about how all females are *****s, fcked up, etc, etc, etc. lol "she feels rejected b/c you rejected her for sex" Yea, sure, that's true but, again, go a little deeper when you analyze her behavior.... what balanced female do you know that behaves THAT way? I don know any. Bullet dodged.

 

[stovepipe]

Really guys

(this isnt directed at you OP, just a trend I notice)
You guys kill me... you date unbalanced females, ignoring the root cause of their fvcked up behavior, even tho they display it like blinging xmas lights immediately, then you come on here and talk about how all females are *****s, fcked up, etc, etc, etc. lol "she feels rejected b/c you rejected her for sex" Yea, sure, that's true but, again, go a little deeper when you analyze her behavior.... what balanced female do you know that behaves THAT way? I don know any. Bullet dodged.

Thats why you are......................

 

[sazc]

Thats why you are......................

Lol,whuck? I'mma need u to decode that for me....

 

[stovepipe]

Lol,whuck? I'mma need u to decode that for me....

I can't stop laughing! It's Johnny Depp from the movie "Don Juan Demarco"

 

[Slash Dolo]

Really guys..."she wanted to bang and was hurt b/c you said no" ?!?! Way to go 'deep' with your assessment of the situation....

Let's take a second and put on our 'critical thinking skills hats', shall we?

She's got LOW SELF ESTEEM. She had that way before she met you. Her texts were looking for REASSURANCE and VALIDATION of your IL and attraction to her.

Yes, you could have played this better, given her the attention and reassurance that she wanted, and lined up a second date where she would have come to you with an open cvnt!

Here's the short end of the stick (no pun intended) with that scenario....she is who she is. She's already displayed that she needs reassurance and validation from people and she isnt afraid to fish for it and, if she doesn't get it she isn't afraid to cause D-R-A-M-A

Step back and re assess....is this really the kind of female you want in your life?

(this isnt directed at you OP, just a trend I notice)
You guys kill me... you date unbalanced females, ignoring the root cause of their fvcked up behavior, even tho they display it like blinging xmas lights immediately, then you come on here and talk about how all females are *****s, fcked up, etc, etc, etc. lol "she feels rejected b/c you rejected her for sex" Yea, sure, that's true but, again, go a little deeper when you analyze her behavior.... what balanced female do you know that behaves THAT way? I don know any. Bullet dodged.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought it weird. Sazc, would you recommend pursuing her at all after this? I'm torn because the other posters made me feel like I was a bit harsh.

 

[sazc]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought it weird. Sazc, would you recommend pursuing her at all after this? I'm torn because the other posters made me feel like I was a bit harsh.

If you pursue, go in with eyes wide open.

You now understand more about who she possibly is. With that info you can choose your conversation to achieve an end goal.

Thing is, she may need constant attention and reassurance.

If you want to try to handle it then try. At the very least it will be a learning experience - and who knows, maybe she just needs to get comfortable with a person.

Just remember, eyes wide open

 

[devilkingx2]

Her: I hope you get home safe. I am sorry if I was not what you expected. Have a good night

Me: I'm home. And you were exactly how I thought you'd be.

Her: Sooooo.... bad. Wednesday Adams and knife with a side of gin
Im ok with that

Me: that's a pretty accurate description; I'm just glad you're not socially awkward irl... a little vain, but a good chatter nevertheless

Her: A little vain huh. Ok

Me: I am too. It's okay.

Her: Ok

lol dude you're dense, the bolded set the tone for the conversation on her part, the underlined was the worst possible response because you sounded serious, like you were critiquing her, my advice is to learn how to use emojis and smiley faces so that your intentions/tone are more clear over text.

the conversation probably came off to her as:

"sorry I was such a bad date"

"yeah you sucked but not as bad as I was expecting"

Really guys..."she wanted to bang and was hurt b/c you said no" ?!?! Way to go 'deep' with your assessment of the situation....

Let's take a second and put on our 'critical thinking skills hats', shall we?

She's got LOW SELF ESTEEM. She had that way before she met you. Her texts were looking for REASSURANCE and VALIDATION of your IL and attraction to her.

Yes, you could have played this better, given her the attention and reassurance that she wanted, and lined up a second date where she would have come to you with an open cvnt!

Here's the short end of the stick (no pun intended) with that scenario....she is who she is. She's already displayed that she needs reassurance and validation from people and she isnt afraid to fish for it and, if she doesn't get it she isn't afraid to cause D-R-A-M-A

Step back and re assess....is this really the kind of female you want in your life?

(this isnt directed at you OP, just a trend I notice)
You guys kill me... you date unbalanced females, ignoring the root cause of their fvcked up behavior, even tho they display it like blinging xmas lights immediately, then you come on here and talk about how all females are *****s, fcked up, etc, etc, etc. lol "she feels rejected b/c you rejected her for sex" Yea, sure, that's true but, again, go a little deeper when you analyze her behavior.... what balanced female do you know that behaves THAT way? I don know any. Bullet dodged.

low self esteem and begging for approval like a puppy? to me that sounds like OP hit the jackpot