You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How much d'ya reckon that's a new thing?ChrizZ said:
In the past it was the church that killed people.Gubby said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This may be true but I don't think many of them are actually thinking about what they should really be doing with that independence. Think about all of the stupid things people are doing using technology.Gubby said:
I could argue the opposite. The trouble with comparing to past generations is that we only know are own. I think it says more about our optimism or pessimism than anything else.ChrizZ said:
Books, internet, programs are all media. So people have much more contact with different ideas. I spend huge amounts of time reading books about self improvement, spirituality, etc etc. I couldn't have done that 1000 years ago. I might have made do, but my search for self-knowledge is considerably facilitated.ChrizZ said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No it was still the military killing then. Its who controls the army that matters. Back then, the church did control the army in the purpose of spreading whatever religion of choice. Now, the church has been replaced with corporatism.ChrizZ said:
Actually I think this is just the realisation that happiness isn't a material thing that can be bought. You guys in the US are infected with materialism more than most, I think. Sure, there's a material component to it -- call it half and half, but nowadays we're WAY off the optimum balance.Ricky said:
Thats how our advertising is angled; creating a connection between material things (Their products) with happiness, spontaneity, love, comradely, you name it. Car commercials especially have been attacking every angle lately, but branded products like coke, various insurance, and even brokerage firms are starting to go at it from all sides.Paper Man said: