What's Wrong With My GF?!

[Weeuweed]

A 8 monthes gf of mine recently said she dont know if she still love me .. But having say that, she doesn't tried to resist when we're making out the day she said that. and also, she is ignoring me whenever we meet....

She did however admitted having loved me before..

Mixed signs.. Is something wrong with her?
HELP!!

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Its much harder to say no while your love button is still getting pushed.

If she's having trouble deciing whether to stay or go with you, make that choice for her. Back off all physical contact. Cold Shoulder. Cold Turkey. Let your last words to her be," Well when you figure out what's what let me know. Until then I'm not hanging around waiting for you to make up your mind."

Absence truly does make the heart grow fonder. I give her less than two weeks before she crumbles and that's at a conservative estimate.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[DJ Alejandro]

maybe you're asking the wrong question. your girl wouldn't be doing that if there or you weren't giving her enough reason to. maybe you're not being enough of a challenge anymore. i may not know the whole situation but all i can say is that maybe you're toning down whatever you did that attracted her to you in the first place.

 

[Weeuweed]

Its much harder to say no while your love button is still getting pushed.

are u saying she still have certain feelings for me??

If she's having trouble deciing whether to stay or go with you, make that choice for her. Back off all physical contact. Cold Shoulder. Cold Turkey. Let your last words to her be," Well when you figure out what's what let me know. Until then I'm not hanging around waiting for you to make up your mind." Absence truly does make the heart grow fonder. I give her less than two weeks before she crumbles and that's at a conservative estimate.

so i just keep on ignoring her until she miss me?
well.. today she come and sit beside me for a while (a good sign ?) and im trap between whether 'to talk to her as usual' or 'to ignore her'

I chosed ignoring . It's hard know the fact she is beside me and i didnt do anything on her... etc holding hands, kino..



still wondering why she became this . Here's what i summarize..


1st Possiblity
the last time i heard she said she love me was in December (before school re-starts) ... and im sure i didnt do anything silly during that time.
im guessing she began acting like this in January coz i did something that month which possibly changed her attitude...

Last January, i began have doutbs whether i still like her as gf or not.. so i stupidly asked her "what u gonna do if i had a change of heart"
as a result we had a "temporary break-up" for sometime .. which i regret and we get back together.


2nd Possiblity
perhaps she is in entering the comfort zone and is freaking out coz the in-love feeling is reduced?
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Other than this two.. i cant really think of anymore reasons.. and now i began to missing her... starting to think whether to ring or not.......

 

[Weeuweed]

Now it gets more confusing

i just found out she sent me a valentine card a week before valentine......... i thought she said she didnt love me anymore .......

Was she just playing games?




HER Msg :

Hi,

Happy Valentine Day ....

LOVE YA....

-DEAR-dear

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

You compleeeeeeeetely missed the point there didn'tcha guy?

'Love Button" is a euphemism for cl1toris. You know, the guy in the boat?

My point with that was that even if she's not sure, you're letting her have her cake and eat it too.

Men give love for sex.

Women give sex for love.

Both are prone to mistake the first for the second.

If you're going to satisfy that need for physical intimacy, hence love of hers without her absolutely having to come to terms with your position in her life, you're just like any other Average Frustrated Chump who gives his feelings freely without being earned, and you shall be shat on accordingly.

Furthermore, ignoring her is viewed as petty, sulking, or some other weakness on your part. You much first establish why you don't want anything to do with her, and then ignore her until she submits. This is a show of strength and she will recognize it as such. Furthermore, if you don't tell her she's never going to get the point and will keep wondering what your problem is untilfinaly she doesn't care anymore, and that is precisely where you don't want to be.

So she sent you a text message, BFD. She has feelings for you, we already know that. What you need to do next time she seems ambivalent about her feelings towards you is show her exactly how strong those feelings are, and the best way to do that is to withdraw yourself from her and let her feel the sting of a world apart from a loved one. Now make your stand.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[Weeuweed]

ouch double post.....

 

[Weeuweed]

If you're going to satisfy that need for physical intimacy, hence love of hers without her absolutely having to come to terms with your position in her life, you're just like any other Average Frustrated Chump who gives his feelings freely without being earned, and you shall be shat on accordingly.

dont understand .. lol american english are so deeeeeep
not quite getting the point..


anyway, now i should go and telll her ..tell her... tell her wat? bah forgot (set a deadline for her or no deadline?) .... then give her cold shoulders for her to miss my absence??
what if she keep coming back at me.....?

btw, u got icq rite? how bout msn?
icq:92220911