What's wrong with me?!

[Viper423]

Ok, so since me and this girl have been hanging out together and making out and messing around for the past month, I never go out with any of my friends anymore. All I can do is think about this girl. She calls me every night, so I don't want to be gone when she does so I sit around at home and watch tv and stuff till she calls. And when we talk, we usually talk for more then an hour, and it is usually a pretty sexual conversation. She likes to do something called the "question game" where you both take turns asking any question you want and the other person has to answer it truthfully. Well, I don't know what's wrong, I'm just crushing badly on this girl and I know she likes me too because she has told me. I just can't stop thinking about her, what should I do?

 

[MVPlaya]

GROW A SACK OF BALLS!

How old are you? Is this your first relationship? Don't be so dependent on her, so you guys are both infatuated with each other (danger), cool, date each other then and set up dates rather than waiting aimlessly for her calls. Do yourself a favor, give her a call and when you're done chill with your friends. If your relationship f*cks up, you don't want to be without friends.

 

[Viper423]

I'm 17 and this girl has been in about 4 relationships, and her last one was devestating, so she doesn't want a commitment right now, she just wants to mess around. So pretty much we are going out and dating, but just not "technically". I'm pretty sure in a few months she'll want a relationship because I can tell she's falling for me.

 

[the_great_gaia]

believe it or not, junior, but she already owns your ass.

I saw so many mistakes by you. Actually, you remind me of myself in 2001. Anyways, on with those mistakes:

You stopped hanging with your friends.. no no, you should always be with your friends, man. It gives you something DIFFERENT to think about other than this girl, which is why you're damn-near obsessed. Hang out with your friends.. lord knows what you all will run into.

She calls you everynight and you stay home just so you don't miss her calls:

Okay, I couldn't fvcking believe this! This is the number one reason why she owns you. She knows you're gonna be home whenever she's ready to have something to do with you, I can only imagine how fvcked you'd be if she didn't call. Do you think she'd wait at home for you to call her? Hell no! You shouldn't make yourself seems so available, this makes you out to be a sucka. For once, seem busy, and even if you aren't, make her think that you are. Try not to answer the phone when she calls.

When yall talk it's usually for an hour:

You know what, junior? You're really just digging your own grave here. At this rate, you're only fvcking her from the telephone, which is 3rd World garbage. Are you actually reading what you're writing? Well, I can't be mad at you. I was the same way, until I turned into this super muthafvcking DJ!! Don't spend much time oh the phone, do all of these sexual questions in person. Would you rather fvck her for real and watch her body, or fvck her on the phone and listen to the dial tone?

Y'all play the question game..

You shouldn't play this.. ever. I just wanted to inform you that the mystery you once had; the mystery that this girl may have thought you were is DEAD! She knows everything about you I'd bet, and she didn't have to do much to find out about you, which destorys the value you may have been.

You're crushing on this girl BADLY because you have her on this "pedestal", and you probably think she's perfect or something. But remember this ONE statement: "She shyt stinks too" You may have blown it with this chick, she will LJBF you, i promise you, unless you make some changes.

 

[Viper423]

Do you think ganji games would work in this instance then?

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by Viper423
Do you think ganji games would work in this instance then?

I don't think you have the self-control to Ganji her. I think you should take her off that pedestal, if she is your girl, cool, but if she is not, step it up. Have you two been on a date? Take her on one, if she blows you off, ganji/next would be fine. But right now I think you have a lack of effort. There are two types of guys, hopers and doers. You're second post shows that you are hoping that she will fall for you and that you are sure it can happen within a matter of a couple months. I recommend that you step the game up a notch, spend more time with your friends, give her the I'm busy once or twice so she knows you're not there on the side waiting desperately for her to fall for you. Make her work for it, don't sell yourself cheap.

 

[Viper423]

We go out about twice a week, lol...and we usually end up making out for about an hour and I usually finger her and she gives me head

 

[naluholo]

Do whatever you want. If you wanna go out with your friends, do it. If you wanna get head from your girl, do it. If you wanna talk to her on the phone and play the question game (which will get really boring very soon), do it. There's consequences and benefits for each.

If all she wants to do is mess around, you need to do a little more than finger her and chat on the phone to keep her interest. Cutting down on the phone time and returning her favors are my suggestions, but again, do whatever you want. Don't just let us make decisions for you.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Viper423
We go out about twice a week, lol...and we usually end up making out for about an hour and I usually finger her and she gives me head

Yuh huh.
The other guy covered this. She owns you dude. It's over. You're posting in a Don Juan Discussion Forum. Have you bothered reading the bible? You have an issue that the other guys didn't bring up. You have your priorities wrong.

Women are not the cake in life, they are the icing. Women should not make your happiness. You have become dependant of her. Her calling you dictates your emotionnal status. Buuddy, read the bible. I rmeember this very statement in the 25 rules thread. Bros before hoes. I don't care what the ^$@# you think this girl is to you but trust me, your friends mean way more to you. I know you think she is the greatest yaddiyaddiyada but guess what: she isn't. No offense but you have made many errors. Correct them. The game is play or be played and you my friend are being played.

The sooner you realise what we are saying, the sooner you can realise what's going on! She has you ***** whipped. You're after what she's giving you. She can make you do whatever the fvck she wants you too!

staying home instead of going out with your friends? I think I'll still be laughing about this tomorrow morning. You've become dependent of her. BIG NONO. Correct yourself. NOW.

READ THE BIBLE


"The magic of the first love is the ignorance that it can never end" -unkown.

 

[Viper423]

Well, see, the thing is she always calls after 9 pm so she knows that I will be home. She even called me tonight and we were talking about college. She wants me to go to the same college as her next year. I think she is falling for me badly. And she doesn't know that I haven't hung out with my friends in a while. Most of the mistakes that I realize I have made she has no clue about anyways. I want to change, and am going to change, I'm just not going to mess stuff up with this girl cause I could see myself with her for a long time to come in the future.

 

[naluholo]

"Hey, (girls name), my friends are going skiiing/surfing/diving/bowling/cow tipping/whatever this friday. I haven't been out with them in a while so I'm gonna hang out with them some this weekend."

She won't be mad. If anything the time off is going to have a positive effect on both of you and your relationship. If perchance she does get upset just tell her you'll plan something good for the following weekend.

I just reread your original post and the worst thing you're doing seems to be waiting by the phone. If there's something you wanna do, then do it. Be very polite if you want and call her and say, "hey I'm going to be doing this, I probably wont be home when you call. I'll call you back again later." Or just tell your momma to let her know you're out and will be back at about 2 AM or whenever. You should spend more time with her in person than on the phone anyways (in my opinion)

To sum it up, just do what you want to do and if you want to be polite or considerate about it, tell her. (definitely decrease the phone time and increase time with your friends)

 

[Porky]

Why would you ganji her? If you can give me a good enough answer I'll take time explaning to you why that's a stupid idea.