What's wrong with me? No interest in success financially

[tryst type]

I was born into a rich family which ended around the age of 8 (personal family reasons)

Now my family and I are considered middle class but I can remember how it felt to have money, lots of it.

I remember the jealousy that came with it and how it was almost a fashion show, materialistic lifestyle especially from my mother.

People seemed fake and worried about showing off more than leading healthy fulfilling lives.

Part of that is branded into me and it makes me care less about wanting such success. Heck I'm happy barely surviving with my sh*tty job and ten year old car.

My friends are all on their way up each year, their income is increasing with age as I feel it should while I'm stuck where I was five years ago and my drive to better my situation is there but my content keeps it from sparking.

I feel money changes people and how you're perceived, I can already notice a change in my friends' attitudes.

I need some advice, also the lack of available jobs with a chance for growth doesn't help. Sometimes I sense my family and friends think I'm a loser for not caring much to improve myself but I honestly don't care about their opinions I'm more so now questioning why I don't want to improve financially.

 

[backbreaker]

i don't think you are int he wrong.

let me put it this way. i remember what it was like to **** a bunch of HB's all the time when i was spinning plates. today i am happily married. I don't aspire to **** HB's all day long. I don't lust after them. I've been there and I'm doing something different now

doesn't make ****ing HB's on the reg wrong, it just means that's not where i am at in life.

you've had money before and you know what it's like. they don't. they want what you had. doesn't make you BETTER because you have already hd it and it doesn't make them better for wanting it.

guys, here, and a few in real life, in particular in real life, see me get hit on and see me pass up prime tail and think i'm an idiot. live and let live i say.


you are fine but just don't take the mindset that they are stupid for wanting money. they want something they've never had before

To quote tony robbins, people aren't lazy, they just haven't found goals that properly motivate them yet.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Being a wise and successful man in the modern world isn't about high salaries and making loads of money. Its about having control over your own life and true WEALTH. Money you OWN not money you MAKE. That's the key.

Making lots of money doesn't mean you have control over your life and making little money doesn't mean you don't.

Allow me to put things in perspective:

If you are young and have a good job, don't make the mistake of taking it for granted. SAVE money and count on being laid off at age 55... because it likely will happen to you. If it doesn't, GREAT, but you need to make plans for contingencies rather than just ignorantly assume it will all work out fine in the end. :nono:

Its not an aberration that people get laid off at age 55 and never find that high-paying job again. Its actually a predictable outcome.. but in the booming economy of the 90's and 2000's a lot of people were dramatically overpaid to do bullsh!t work and expected that such jobs would be available forever. :crackup:

But then the economy rationalizes, and suddenly, the idea of paying an overblown office clerk 100k makes no sense.

So, if you are being wildly overpaid for basically low-skill or unskilled work, then it only makes sense to save money and expect to be laid off in the future.. and have a second career making far less. It is a very typical pattern, not an atypical one.

Eventually you will price yourself out of the labor market for your services (just like a used up wh0re), and you will be let go long before you are prepared for retirement. The key is to prepare for an inevitable early retirement, and hope it doesn't happen. Very few people do this, and the results can be staggering (as we've seen).

Here are just a few suggestions for the young professional:

- Max out your contribution to your IRA, 401(k), or other retirement plan.

- Cut most or all subscription services: Cable TV, TIVO, Satellite Radio, and the like.

- Buy a car and keep it. The most economical way to buy a car is to buy a late model used car with low mileage, secondhand.

- Stop buying "STUFF": The average suburban salary slave has a two car garage, but never parks his cars in there. Why? Because its full of CRAP.

- Have a SAVINGS PLAN: In addition to your retirement plan, you should take steps to build up reserves of after-tax cash.

Chasing the "fabulous life" is retarded. Be smart and chase FREEDOM. Freedom comes from having the resources to minimize your NEED for others. Working 60 hours a week for SOMEONE ELSE and being paid 200k might look impressive.. but you're still just a glorified slave.. no different from the clerk at McDonald's. :crackup:

 

[evan12]

You cant find a good advise when it comes to money on this website .
The reason why you are not looking for upgrade is because you dont have kids and family . I noticed most of men who live singlhood live on minimum wages and spend most of their money on nothing .
having money is freadom , you are not having them to get approval from women , you are having them to have a better options in your life , and not to live as slave .

 

[Warrior74]

As a poor person who was born middle class. Trust me, I don't want wealth, I just want freedom. At my age worrying about having enough money to pay bills is ridiculous.

Honestly, when I hit it big, I could care less how people perceive me. I want the money, not the honey. I don't have to show off. I just want the ability to be able to show up. All of my friends are successful and I can feel the pity coming from them and I hate it. At least I don't have cvntish fat wives riding my ass like they do.

 

[disgustipated]

So much gold in this thread.

 

[tryst type]

As a poor person who was born middle class. Trust me, I don't want wealth, I just want freedom. At my age worrying about having enough money to pay bills is ridiculous.

Honestly, when I hit it big, I could care less how people perceive me. I want the money, not the honey. I don't have to show off. I just want the ability to be able to show up. All of my friends are successful and I can feel the pity coming from them and I hate it. At least I don't have cvntish fat wives riding my ass like they do.

Man I'm with you on the friends part. They're all on the road to marriage and buying houses with their gfs and I know they're looking down on me in comparison. I bet their gfs are also making mention of it.

Makes me not want to go to any of their birthday bashes and what not in which all of their other similar married/in a relationship friends will be. Just not my scene and could care less for them.

I'm at a point where I'd rather be alone, date random girls when I'm bored/horny, or find and make new single friends.

 

[evan12]

Man I'm with you on the friends part. They're all on the road to marriage and buying houses with their gfs and I know they're looking down on me in comparison. I bet their gfs are also making mention of it.

Makes me not want to go to any of their birthday bashes and what not in which all of their other similar married/in a relationship friends will be. Just not my scene and could care less for them.

I'm at a point where I'd rather be alone, date random girls when I'm bored/horny, or find and make new single friends.

People who shout for sun is always higher value than people who settle to less.it is the most fundamental biological male competitive principal , it it is evident that you haven't start dying inside.
I dont want to judge you , if you are looking for advise take what I wrote in account , but if you are looking for some one to validate the status you are in then ignore my posts .

 

[elpasorichard]

Depends on how much you like your job and like working. I am older than you, so my perspective is going to be a little different. I retired from the Army in 2003. I started working civilian jobs, but none of them fulfilled me like serving my country did. My primary goal became to make as much money as I could so I could stop working. I just stopped working for good at the age of 47. I couldn't have done that if I hadn't made "money" my primary goal.

 

[SecondHalf]

OP ... so ... what are your goals?
The tone of your post gives me the impression you've not really planned some of the basic needs that you will work towards in life.

The resentment towards money is not really accurate. It's the petty/shallow/braggart lifestyle that these people are buying into that maybe bothers you? (personally, don't like it either).

Do you have goals and milestones in mind.
Write them down.

Such as ...

Father a child?
Home owner at 40?
Travel, see the world, how often, starting when?
Retire at 60?
Retire independent or dependent on the state?

Figure out what you want (high level).
Guess how much it will cost (then multiply by at least 1.25).
Then pay attention to that sick, panicked feeling it generates inside you and start working on how you're going to get their.

Each year your savings/success curve should get steeper but it can start slow in the beginning. Don't stress yourself out initially. Meeting your milestones will further motivate you as you go.

Good luck!

SH

 

[Aristippus]

You can use money to DO things instead of money to BUY things. Make experiences your primary goal and you can make peace with having money. You can let money and possessions own you or you can own your money and use it as a tool to let you do what you want, when you want, while maintaining a minimalist, yet comfortable and stress-free lifestyle.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Heck I'm happy barely surviving with my sh*tty job and ten year old car.

So what's the problem? Did you just make a problem out of nothing?

Sounds to me like you are too worried about other people's opinions and keeping up with the Joneses.

 

[LiveFreeX]

You need money to buy your way out of the blue pill induced life and keep other nosey government people from taking an interest in your children.

 

[LiveFreeX]

You need money to buy your way out of the blue pill induced life and keep other nosey government people from taking an interest in your children. Whoa wtf happened here... mods can you delete those or someone tell me how to delete double posts.

 

[evan12]

Wow...really?

Some of the wealthiest people on this planet aren't married/have children. Oprah being one of them.

Maritial status does NOT, in my opinion, ultimately determine one's financial success level.

I'm single, no kids...and work my AZZ off...and I have a 401(k) and money in the bank. I don't need a financial partner to be financially successful. I already have a partner, actually--her name is "IRiS."

I am not saying every single is borke , but not every person have motivation to collect weath if he doesnt have some serious responsibilities

 

[Alvafe]

I am not saying every single is borke , but not every person have motivation to collect weath if he doesnt have some serious responsibilities

I consider it more like need, me as single I don't need to out and do things I wouldn't like or spend my whole time at work to make extra, because mainly I don't need, I ahve where to live and my car and enough money to go out and still have my savings,

so what need I would have to make more? to a woman go after my money? or because people tend to think he is full of money so go get him girl? I'm not like cheap guy, but I hold my money if I don't see a need to buy or get something.

course having more money would make me get better things or get in more expensive hobbys I wanted to try but the way things are now, if I make more I wouldn't ahve time for anything else, and my side plans now I have to work on.