Revolution said:
This HB7 at school really stared me down the first time she saw me, I have never ever caught a girl looking at me so intently. I did not say anything to her or even smile. ( I was mad about something) Anyways whenever I saw her she would look at for a really long time, finally I called to her to my table on day and talked to her. We talked about 20 minutes, I was decent convo. I messed up on one DJ technique of not making enough eye contact. The convo. was not a total bust I did not put much game because I actually wanted to know what this girl was about. The next I saw her and did not say anything (trying to play hard to get?) She said hi and waved to me and I waved back, as I was leaving she was on her phone and I waved back. Since that day she has lost all interest, I have seen her a lot less I use to see her everyday, she tries to avoid eye contact occasionally when I do see her, and I think she is actually trying to make me see her with other guys. I don't think I did anything to cool of her interest that much from 10 minute stare down to no acknowledgement. What do you guys think is she playing hard to get or should just move on to the next conquest?
First off, your post is a common theme.
Girl notices you, you have the balls to engage her, something goes "wrong", and now "What do I do? Whatdo you guys think?"
You also exhibit the typical scenario of not being used to woman's attention. This is a little bit of a hurdle for a lot of guys. And it's easy to lose focus and control when a girl express strong interest, or at least, strong body language. It can throw some of the beter DJs off too. If you learn to flirt with women, and egage them socially, you' may be less self conscious receiving attention from them. Thus, not alerting their "radar" of "LONELY GUY ALERT"!
OK, good job on "calling her" to your table. Very good move.
This is a Qualifier which shows Interest Level in a woman.
This is a good example to follow, when possible.
Now, before giving any advice you need to step back, and objectively examine your "Game" or lack thereof.
I want to ask you something.
You said something about "next conquest"...
Did you already
conquer this girl?
How so?
I don't think you did. In fact, far from it.
You still need more experience with women to make such a judgement call like that. Be patient, you will learn this if you want it.
There was no Conquest, dude.
Let's face facts, you just chatted for a little while.
You are also experiencing typical AFCism, "Does she like me or not?"
Yes, you need to find out her Interest Level. we can probably assume she had at least 51%. You may have lowered it during the conversation. But since we're not psychics, and neither are you, you're going to have to do it the Old Manly Old Fashioned Way.
Get up in her.
But somehow you're ready to give up and move on to "another Conquest?"
You need to get a grip, friend.
You conquered nothing except your inital fear when enaging her first.
How can you find out if she likes you?
Dude.....
You need to get in her space and keep engaging her.
You didn't do so well in the conversation. You felt it, and so did she.
But what's the Bottom Line Factor?
She DID say "Hi'" to you and Waved at you. (these are Good Signs)
Actions speak louder than words.
Most AFCs will do two things "She's in love with me, and I love her too!"
and/or "What must I do to get her to like me?"
Pay attention to Actions, and body language, not so much the Words.
The only ay you will find out her interest Level is to continue to engage her UNTIL SHE SHOWS YOU.
Also, if you're sp eager and ready to move on, that seems to me like:
You didn't like her that much in the first place.
Your afraid of re engaging her.
Here's something else,
she now has the power.
As
you're probably thinking more about Her, than
she is thinking about you.
You
need to reverse this if you really are interested in her.
As for she's hanging around other guys. Well, she may be trying to get your attention. Maybe she wants to see if you're interested too.
maybe she's an attention Hor'D. Either way, she's not engaging you.
Maybe she's playing the game with your head, to bring up your interest level.
She knows the game, you may not be that acquainted yet.
You need to start approaching from a position of power.
You know you and her environment. When is she isolated?
Talk to her then. Approach her.
This is, assuming you actually like the girl.
See what she DOES. What are her ACTIONS?
She will only play "hard to get" if she's an attention Hor'D, or she actually is interested in you.
The only way you can know, and get to her is by conversation, body language, and eye contact.
Basiclly flirting and seduction.
Good luck.
