What's up with this one?

[rastapasta]

I'm still learning so some input would be helpful regarding this conversation, is this just low IL or what?

Long story short, this HB7 contacted me on POF, I don't do online anymore but figured screw it she opened me. Few messages back and forth, number closed, sent a text with no response. I think she was expecting me to call. Sent another msg on the site like hey what happened...she said she must have missed my text. Texted her again later in the week and she told me to call. We had a short convo on the phone, told her I was going out of town the next morning (I was) and I will hit her up next week to set up a plan to meet up. Texted her yesterday:

Me: Hi HB7, how are you?
HB7: Hi. Good. Yourself?
Me: I'm good thanks. Lets meet up Thurs around 8:30ish if you're free?
HB7: I can make that happen
HB7: Where are we meeting?
Me: Unless you feel like coming down here I'd say half way like [City A] or [City B]

HB7: Where r u?
Me: I'm in [My City]
HB7: U don't like [Her City]?
Me: [Your City] is cool but not for living
HB7: How about for going out?
Me: Has some decent dinner options haha how about either [Place 1] or [Place 2] in [City B]?

HB7: Hmmm

Was radio silence after that. I could drive to her city, it is not even that far but where she lives it is really expensive to go anywhere. City B is really hip and has some nice bars and is actually a 10 minute drive for her at that time of night.

Just curious what other's opinions are. I am pretty much leaving this one alone unless she contacts me again, she's not really my type anyway (same ethnicity as me and a lawyer. Most women lawyers I know are domineering and masculine as fck). Thanks dudes!

 

[gravityeyelids]

I'm still learning so some input would be helpful regarding this conversation, is this just low IL or what?

Long story short, this HB7 contacted me on POF, I don't do online anymore but figured screw it she opened me. Few messages back and forth, number closed, sent a text with no response. I think she was expecting me to call. Sent another msg on the site like hey what happened...she said she must have missed my text. Texted her again later in the week and she told me to call. We had a short convo on the phone, told her I was going out of town the next morning (I was) and I will hit her up next week to set up a plan to meet up. Texted her yesterday:

Me: Hi HB7, how are you?
HB7: Hi. Good. Yourself?
Me: I'm good thanks. Lets meet up Thurs around 8:30ish if you're free?
HB7: I can make that happen
HB7: Where are we meeting?
Me: Unless you feel like coming down here I'd say half way like [City A] or [City B]

HB7: Where r u?
Me: I'm in [My City]
HB7: U don't like [Her City]?
Me: [Your City] is cool but not for living
HB7: How about for going out?
Me: Has some decent dinner options haha how about either [Place 1] or [Place 2] in [City B]?

HB7: Hmmm

Was radio silence after that. I could drive to her city, it is not even that far but where she lives it is really expensive to go anywhere. City B is really hip and has some nice bars and is actually a 10 minute drive for her at that time of night.

Just curious what other's opinions are. I am pretty much leaving this one alone unless she contacts me again, she's not really my type anyway (same ethnicity as me and a lawyer. Most women lawyers I know are domineering and masculine as fck). Thanks dudes!

You gotta stop asking her and tell her where and when you're meeting up. Logistics can be a pain in the a$$, but you have to be the one leading the interaction. Dont keep phrasing everything in the form of questions. Tell her what you two are going to do, dont ask.

 

[Willard]

Why don't you meet her in her city for a drink, then drive where you want for the rest of the date, that is if you even want to after meeting her. I don't stereotype anymore, there have been girls I was thinking of blowing off because of that, then when I meet them I end up liking them. You could always just meet for coffee first to see if you even like her, then go on a real date another time.

 

[rastapasta]

You gotta stop asking her and tell her where and when you're meeting up. Logistics can be a pain in the a$$, but you have to be the one leading the interaction. Dont keep phrasing everything in the form of questions. Tell her what you two are going to do, dont ask.

Thanks for the tip, I thought I was being direct enough by not folding into her obvious desire to meet in her part of town and saying let's meet at either of these places here (they are basically next door to eachother). I'll just lay down time and place next time.

Just curious what your response to hmmm might be?

As for stereotyping, I don't think I am doing that. I've worked with a lot of attorneys and generally they just irk the hell out of me regardless of male or female. Although I often find the females to really be something else.